Hi moms, I need some advice.
DD (almost 6) is in her school's summer camp and one little girl, who was in her kindergarten class, is always coming up to me tattling to me about my daughter when I get there to pick her up. She's always telling my that DD is mean to her and calls her names. We're not talking about 4-letter words here, just silly words that 5 and 6 year olds make up (yesterday it was bootybutt). I always tell DD that it's not nice for her to call people names even if they're being mean to her. DD has also repeatedly told me, since about halfway through last school year, that this little girl is mean to her and sometimes won't let her play with some of the other girls. So, I tell her that if someone is being mean to her that she should find someone else to play with that is nice to her. I think my daughter and this other little girl are kind of like oil and water - they're both sweet girls, but they just don't get along very well.
I'm sure my daughter's not completely innocent, but I don't think the other little girl is either. I've asked the camp counselors about DD's behavior and they say that she's been having pretty good days. If anything big happened I'm confident that they would tell me about it. Anyway, I'm tired of this little girl continually coming up to me and tattling on DD but I'm not sure how to discourage it. As I mentioned before, I talk to DD about name calling but I'm not going to discipline her for something that I didn't witness and that the camp counselors haven't mentioned to me. What would you say to a child that repeatedly came up to you to tattle on your child about little things?