He's 6 years old (will be 7 in August). He has a very strong personality and a very fast temper. He's extremely smart, but lacking emotional maturity.
He got in trouble at school today. I haven't gotten the whole story yet, but he definitely had a major tantrum. When I told my friend/co-worker she asked what was wrong with these teachers that they can't handle him. I was really quick to tell her the teachers aren't the problem, he is. He needs to learn his place in the food chain and quit acting like an apex predator when he's just lower level prey. I don't want these teachers catering to him. He needs to learn how to function in a world that won't bend to his will.
His outbursts and unruly behaviour are better now than they were a few years ago, so he's getting it...slowly but surely. I'm confident he'll continue to get if I make sure he's held responsible for his behaviour. No excuses.
Do you have a difficult child?
Quoting melissa632:
My youngest is my difficult child. But,never at school. They're always singing him praises. I'm like...who's kid are you talking about because it's surely not mine...lol.
Quoting melissa632:
My youngest is my difficult child. But,never at school. They're always singing him praises. I'm like...who's kid are you talking about because it's surely not mine...lol.
I had a difficult child who was always the best behaved at school. Teachers still sing his praises, and he's going into high school. They say when the child acts out at home, but not school it's good on several levels because they know their place on the food chain and are comfortable enough at home to let it all out.
My difficult child got a lot better when he was confirmed as gifted in the 2nd grade. The school had a pull out program called Challenge. And it was never the same from one year to the next. The first year he went they did things like imaginary sensory walks through Target and fracturing fairy tales. To find other kids like him was huge. It really calmed him down and allowed him to concentrate on something that engaged him. He is now going into honors classes at a public high school, with a magnet program for engineering and math. He is going to be like a dog with a new bone.
you made me chuckle with the "apex predator" reference!!
All four of my children are hard to handle. I have a 6 year old know it all who runs around and acts crazy when she doesnt get her way or when she is bored. I know why she is bored and I take that into account but she still knows that she is in trouble for the behavior. There is no reason to act like a hooligan who has never been taught how to behave. My 5 year old is one who is super shy so she wont stay with new groups or hangs her head and pouts the whole time. I tell her she has to stay with a group no matter what it is dangerous and if she cant follow the rules she can not go to fun things. My 3 year old son is always doing things that are dangerous. I put him down for a nap a few weeks ago and he rearranged his room to try to climb out his window on the secound story and lucky a nieghbor came and told me, because I was doing homework in another room and he was being quite about it. My baby is very clingy she is 2.
It is thier personalities, but they still have to learn to work with everyone else and if they cant then they will have issues. There is no excuses.
She was corrected out the wazoo, but was so impulsive. She's matured a lot in the past couple years. When she was tested, she had the maturity of a three-year old. She knew exactly what she was supposed to do, but couldn't do it in the moment. She still has her quirks, but us in the gifted program and doing well.
Keep plugging away!
Well said. If you can get help for his behavior get the help that he needs right now before it gets out of hand. Good luck
Quoting Cindy18:You have a great outlook!!
So many parents want to blame society for the child's behaviors.... and, IMHO, it has made a whole generation of people who don't take responsibility for their actions and want the world to cater to them.
Your son has a great headstart on the life because you are his mom and you are raising him to be a responsible, productive, member of the society!
I do. It's my middle child. I knew her responses and fits were not normal and I had her tested. She has sensory perception disorder. It's not a big deal but adds to her difficulty. I don't make excuses but I know why things are harder with her and I do have to modify my approach as there are times where I can not get through to her because of her SPD and I have to delay my first line of defense. I'm not bothered by it but I can see where other parents would lose it with a child like mine. I'm glad she is mine so that I can love her and give her what she needs. I'm hopeful she will outgrow it but if not then I'm okay too. I'm beyond blessed to have her and my other DDs. =)
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- Babujai
on Jun. 29, 2012 at 8:26 PM