So my daughter went to a sleepover birthday party Monday night, she is 9. While she was sleeping one of the other girls cut a chunk of her hair at the scalp. How do I approach this with the mom that hosted the sleepover? I am at a complete loss of what to say. If I figure out who did this I will be on their front steeps. I am sorry but that is assult and the girl is a bully. I am sad, I am mad, and I don't know what to do.
While I may not call it assault - I think it is a very serious issue. Scissors....while someone is sleeping....and close to the scalp too? Nope, not just a silly prank IMHO
Quoting steelcrazy:You can call the hosts mother to let her know what happened. That is what I would do. However, I don't know what the big issue is over this. These are little girls and no one was hurt, so I can't imagine assult charges being filed. Also being a bully is a lot more than pulling a silly prank on another child at a sleep over. Whenever I was a child we used to put the first girl to fall sleep's bra in the freezer. It was a silly prank and I am guessing that this very well was done as a prank as well. *shrugs* It's hair and it will grow back.
I am betting it was a who ever falls asleep first prank, but the host mother should have put a stop to it. It is not something I would have allowed in my house and even at 9 the scissors would not have been to where the girls could have got to them. I would ask her if she new what had happened and see if she can help you figure it out. If you attack her then she will be defensive and you wont get to the bottom of it.
Quoting Lovingmomfarm:
How would you like it if someone cut your hair while you were sleeping. My guess you would not like it one bit. Never once did I saw charges. But, yes when you cut someones hair with out their permission or knowledge it is assault and the child needs to know that you cannot act like that. Yes the girl that did this to my daughter was acting like a bully. There are many forms and this falls into one of those forms.
Putting bras in the freezer is one thing but when you cut someones hair that is another. It is unaccepatble behavior.
Quoting steelcrazy:
You can call the hosts mother to let her know what happened. That is what I would do. However, I don't know what the big issue is over this. These are little girls and no one was hurt, so I can't imagine assult charges being filed. Also being a bully is a lot more than pulling a silly prank on another child at a sleep over. Whenever I was a child we used to put the first girl to fall sleep's bra in the freezer. It was a silly prank and I am guessing that this very well was done as a prank as well. *shrugs* It's hair and it will grow back.
You are WAY overreacting. For your information hair has a tendency to grow back. Also it is not assault because your child wasn't physically harmed and really if she was emotionally harmed perhaps it's due to the fact that she has a mother who loses it at the drop of a pin. Sure it's unacceptable but so are a lot of other things like bras in the freezer but you don't see mobs of mothers running around looking for blood. Good Lord get a grip.
Quoting Lovingmomfarm:How would you like it if someone cut your hair while you were sleeping. My guess you would not like it one bit. Never once did I saw charges. But, yes when you cut someones hair with out their permission or knowledge it is assault and the child needs to know that you cannot act like that. Yes the girl that did this to my daughter was acting like a bully. There are many forms and this falls into one of those forms.
Putting bras in the freezer is one thing but when you cut someones hair that is another. It is unaccepatble behavior.
Quoting steelcrazy:You can call the hosts mother to let her know what happened. That is what I would do. However, I don't know what the big issue is over this. These are little girls and no one was hurt, so I can't imagine assult charges being filed. Also being a bully is a lot more than pulling a silly prank on another child at a sleep over. Whenever I was a child we used to put the first girl to fall sleep's bra in the freezer. It was a silly prank and I am guessing that this very well was done as a prank as well. *shrugs* It's hair and it will grow back.
I hated calling the mom about it, but that needed to be done. Once she said it could not have happened their I let it go. I am not going to make a big stink out of it, still frustrated has heck. I don't like conflict at all so having to call the host mom was a big deal for me. I didn't want to offend her but at the same time I would want to know.
I simple told my daughter that I am sorry this happened to you and I hope that it never happens again. I also explained to her what would happen if she ever did that to someone. While doing this I told her about the store the news. I wanted to make this a learning experience.
Perhaps you should not judge someone else. It was my daughter that came to me. I did not say a thing to her when I noticed it.
It is parents that do not teach their kids respect for others that are part of the problem. If you are getting all mad because of a post of my frustration that my daughter was hurt I feel sorry for you. Maybe you need to take the breather. I am sorry you don't care about feeling of a child. That is what I am trying to fix. In no means did I ever say I am going to get all in a huffy with the other parent. A parent has the right and shuld be upset when someone harms their child, rather that be physical is mental. The fact that all I have wanted to do is talk, yes talk never did I say yell, scream, getting in a pissing match with the other parent, so that this does not happen again.
So no I am not overractiving I am being proactive for my child as a parent should do.
Quoting britt6:You are WAY overreacting. For your information hair has a tendency to grow back. Also it is not assault because your child wasn't physically harmed and really if she was emotionally harmed perhaps it's due to the fact that she has a mother who loses it at the drop of a pin. Sure it's unacceptable but so are a lot of other things like bras in the freezer but you don't see mobs of mothers running around looking for blood. Good Lord get a grip.
Quoting Lovingmomfarm:How would you like it if someone cut your hair while you were sleeping. My guess you would not like it one bit. Never once did I saw charges. But, yes when you cut someones hair with out their permission or knowledge it is assault and the child needs to know that you cannot act like that. Yes the girl that did this to my daughter was acting like a bully. There are many forms and this falls into one of those forms.
Putting bras in the freezer is one thing but when you cut someones hair that is another. It is unaccepatble behavior.
Quoting steelcrazy:You can call the hosts mother to let her know what happened. That is what I would do. However, I don't know what the big issue is over this. These are little girls and no one was hurt, so I can't imagine assult charges being filed. Also being a bully is a lot more than pulling a silly prank on another child at a sleep over. Whenever I was a child we used to put the first girl to fall sleep's bra in the freezer. It was a silly prank and I am guessing that this very well was done as a prank as well. *shrugs* It's hair and it will grow back.
You have confronted the hostess who had the sleepover. . She said it never happen at her house. If I was you I would never , ever, let my daughter sleep over at that house again............. She can play at the house but not a sleep over.
Quoting britt6:
You are WAY overreacting. For your information hair has a tendency to grow back. Also it is not assault because your child wasn't physically harmed and really if she was emotionally harmed perhaps it's due to the fact that she has a mother who loses it at the drop of a pin. Sure it's unacceptable but so are a lot of other things like bras in the freezer but you don't see mobs of mothers running around looking for blood. Good Lord get a grip.
Quoting Lovingmomfarm:
How would you like it if someone cut your hair while you were sleeping. My guess you would not like it one bit. Never once did I saw charges. But, yes when you cut someones hair with out their permission or knowledge it is assault and the child needs to know that you cannot act like that. Yes the girl that did this to my daughter was acting like a bully. There are many forms and this falls into one of those forms.
Putting bras in the freezer is one thing but when you cut someones hair that is another. It is unaccepatble behavior.
Quoting steelcrazy:
You can call the hosts mother to let her know what happened. That is what I would do. However, I don't know what the big issue is over this. These are little girls and no one was hurt, so I can't imagine assult charges being filed. Also being a bully is a lot more than pulling a silly prank on another child at a sleep over. Whenever I was a child we used to put the first girl to fall sleep's bra in the freezer. It was a silly prank and I am guessing that this very well was done as a prank as well. *shrugs* It's hair and it will grow back.
How far would allow kids to go then when a "prank" is no longer just a "prank"?
Ask my daughter when it happened. If she said it was at the sleepover, I would go to the parents of the host and tell him/her what you knew. If she denied it then I would ask for all the co.tact information if each parent of all the girls and talk to each one of the parents about what happened. I'm sorry....this goes beyond a simple prank. I would get to the bottom of it.
so.............can your kid come to my house? I have a pair of scissors ready for when he/she is asleep.......maybe I'll JUST get hair....then again, maybe I won't. But skin grows back so no big deal
Quoting britt6:You are WAY overreacting. For your information hair has a tendency to grow back. Also it is not assault because your child wasn't physically harmed and really if she was emotionally harmed perhaps it's due to the fact that she has a mother who loses it at the drop of a pin. Sure it's unacceptable but so are a lot of other things like bras in the freezer but you don't see mobs of mothers running around looking for blood. Good Lord get a grip.
Quoting Lovingmomfarm:How would you like it if someone cut your hair while you were sleeping. My guess you would not like it one bit. Never once did I saw charges. But, yes when you cut someones hair with out their permission or knowledge it is assault and the child needs to know that you cannot act like that. Yes the girl that did this to my daughter was acting like a bully. There are many forms and this falls into one of those forms.
Putting bras in the freezer is one thing but when you cut someones hair that is another. It is unaccepatble behavior.
Quoting steelcrazy:You can call the hosts mother to let her know what happened. That is what I would do. However, I don't know what the big issue is over this. These are little girls and no one was hurt, so I can't imagine assult charges being filed. Also being a bully is a lot more than pulling a silly prank on another child at a sleep over. Whenever I was a child we used to put the first girl to fall sleep's bra in the freezer. It was a silly prank and I am guessing that this very well was done as a prank as well. *shrugs* It's hair and it will grow back.
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- Lovingmomfarm
on Jun. 30, 2012 at 6:13 PM