Still shaking after i confronted 8 year old over a game
Well we were over helping put up a tent this weekend when my husband was talking about a game the 8 year old plays by me. I let him play it never was brought up to me.
Well on satuday i was informed that his dad doesnt allow him to play the zombies on cod. So i was in shock and told the father i was sorry. He said that it was not my fault as he didnt inform me.
Well now with the new info he brought the game, came inside and played it. I sdidnt know he was playing thr zombies part. So as i checked he was. I asked him are u allowed to play this part of the game at home, he says mom lets him. Well i will know for sure when he gets picked up but i am going by what his dad said. So i told him shut it off, showef him the rating and explained to him the rating. As he screamed at me my hudband walks in and raises his voice so mike stopped. I then finished the conversation and mike just yelled. Well my son is down for his nap and his room is directly above. So i said u will not scream at me or i will spank u. He stopped and i put him in time out for 8 mins while my husband tried to put the parental controls on the game but turns out he doesnt think u can. So i took the game and put it up on the fridge. I told mike if i catch him trying to get the game down i will take the wii down.
Quoting Cindy18:
The only thing I can really comment on is this.... Your house, your rules. Period! And you should never threaten to spank a child that isn't yours.
If the child brought it I would have mentioned it ti the parent's if they knew it...
IF it belongs to you then you are very wrong and it should never have been accessible to the child...who is the adult here???
Im a bit skeptic - as this is either a drama post just to draw comments OR maybe you dont need to be babysitting......
If I was this other parent I would be furious with you.
Blue
Maybe I am little confused, If it your son that bring the game to your house your son's father and you should have a guideline what games your son is allowed to play. This will help so they would be any miscommunication or confusion. If you son decide to disrespect you and your husband in your own home remove all his games until he knows how to respect adults.
Check his games before he plays it. Good luck
I took this as the kid brought the game to your house...is that correct? If so, does the father know this child even has the game? Since apparently the child told you that the mother lets him play that. If the child brought it, I'd explain to the dad that his child is the one who brought the game to your house & that he's informed you the mother lets him play it. At 8 years old, he should be asking you if he could even play the video game system, not just do it, so therefore, I take it as you weren't paying close attention to him? Threatening to spank another child is wrong! You shouldn't have even done it, nor should your husband have yelled at him! You should have told the child he needed to sit in time out for 8 minutes & cool down! If I were his parents, that'd be the last time you watch him.
Quoting HLmom89:
So i babysit for my neighbors sons. They are 4 and 8 year olds.
Well we were over helping put up a tent this weekend when my husband was talking about a game the 8 year old plays by me. I let him play it never was brought up to me.
Well on satuday i was informed that his dad doesnt allow him to play the zombies on cod. So i was in shock and told the father i was sorry. He said that it was not my fault as he didnt inform me.
Well now with the new info he brought the game, came inside and played it. I sdidnt know he was playing thr zombies part. So as i checked he was. I asked him are u allowed to play this part of the game at home, he says mom lets him. Well i will know for sure when he gets picked up but i am going by what his dad said. So i told him shut it off, showef him the rating and explained to him the rating. As he screamed at me my hudband walks in and raises his voice so mike stopped. I then finished the conversation and mike just yelled. Well my son is down for his nap and his room is directly above. So i said u will not scream at me or i will spank u. He stopped and i put him in time out for 8 mins while my husband tried to put the parental controls on the game but turns out he doesnt think u can. So i took the game and put it up on the fridge. I told mike if i catch him trying to get the game down i will take the wii down.
Would you really have spanked someone else's child?? That's not your place. If I was that kid's parent I would have been more upset about that than the video game he was playing.
All you had to do was unplug the game and tell him he can play it when BOTH his parents gave the okay. If he screamed, walk away. Don't ever engage in an argument with an 8 yr old. You give the kid power when you do.
There'd be hell to pay if my sitter threatened bodily harm to my child. You're being paid to watch him. Put away the games that are inappropriate.
#1 - Don't ever spank or threaten to spank another person's child.
#2 - If a child in your home (your child or not) wants to play a game, watch tv, etc....they should ask permission. My kids are never allowed to watch TV unless they ask me.
#3 - Did you not check the game before he started playing?
Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:
Why aren't you monitoring what he is playing? That is your job when he is at your house.
I can't believe you would even THREATEN to spank another person's child. If I was the parent my kid wouldn't be back. You have posted about him before and he's a handful, I would look into new arrangements for him.
If you plan to keep watching him, you need to sit with the parents and come up with a list of behaviors, rewards, and consequences and then the FOUR of you sit down with the boy and spell it all out. It will help with his behavior nd keep you from getting sued!
I think you hit everything I was thinking. I've don't remember any other posts about this. But based off this post alone it doesn't sound like this arrangement is working.
To me it sounds like he's acting more or less like an eight year seeing what he can get away with. If it upsets you this much this isn't the right job for you.
And i noticed it as soon as i could as i was busy getting my laundry done and finshing cleaning up my house. Normally he brings moderrn warfare 3.
I dont own games that are rated m or t inly games i own is rated e. the wii is our system that we set up so he could watch netflix or play any games he brought from home as long as we had the controls on.
And his parents is good friends with me and she and he both told me i could treat him as if he were my kid.
As i would never spank a child that is not mine unless it was ok or the parentd told me to for bas behavior.
Quoting HLmom89:
Ok he brought the game from home. Both parents let him play that part of the game while someone is in the room with him. But i was never told he couldnt play that part of the game until this weekend.
And i noticed it as soon as i could as i was busy getting my laundry done and finshing cleaning up my house. Normally he brings moderrn warfare 3.
I dont own games that are rated m or t inly games i own is rated e. the wii is our system that we set up so he could watch netflix or play any games he brought from home as long as we had the controls on.
And his parents is good friends with me and she and he both told me i could treat him as if he were my kid.
As i would never spank a child that is not mine unless it was ok or the parentd told me to for bas behavior.
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- HLmom89
on Jul. 16, 2012 at 3:50 PM