UPDATED 7/26 - HELP! 10 yr old nephew coercing cousins to show/play with their privates!
7/26 - Child Protective Services has been called. My mother chose to do it, she did not want me to have to make that call. My mother spoke to the therapist this morning, to give him information on my sister and her kids and this whole unbelievable situation. From his reaction it does not appear that my sister has shared the whole story with him. She is believing what her children are telling her, that it was no more than a truth or dare game. My sister has met with the therapist twice this week, I don't believe either of her children have been included at this point.
7/23 My mother went over and spoke to my sister this afternoon. There were stupid comments made by both my sister and her husband. They would not let my mother take the kids out to dinner, not sure what they are afraid of.
My sister did meet with a therapist today at 6pm (my mother was spying on her to make sure she went). I have not heard how that went.
eta- I justheard, my nephew will also be seeing the therapist. Not sure when his first appointment is going to be.
I thank you all for your help and advice.
I understand EVERYTHING that was said, from the nice to the extremely harsh. I even understand our two doubters, although one day it would be nice to hear them say they were wrong. :)
In my head I know calling cps is the right thing to do. My heart is breaking over that decision. I know my sister will never understand and will probably never speak to me again.
My mother is going to my sister's home tomorrow to discuss therapy for my nephew and niece as well as my sister and her husband. If they refuse I will make the call to cps.
I am so sick over this incident I can't even see straight.
The story is that my 10yr old nephew coerced my 8 yr old dd, his 7 yr old sister and 6 yr old male cousin to expose their privates. He apparently touched my dd's privates and asked her if it 'felt good'. He and his 7 yr old sister put their mouths on each others privates. He also had a private incident with the 6 yr old male cousin where he convinced the 6yr old to 'kiss' him on the front and back of the private area.
I am so upset/angry/sick... My nephew is a problem child and totally controls my sister. She has been in denial for so long with his behavior issues, she used to say 'oh, he's just a boy'. She NEVER follows thru with her threats of discipline. My brother already talked to her about this and she said, well J said it only happened once. Now we know he lied to her face and of course she bought it.
What do I do??? How do I make my sister understand that no one wants their kids around her son? She needs to address his behavior and her lack of control!
I am sorry if this is all jumbles, I am just so distraught.
I welcome any/all advice!