I swear he has to be first! He was born first (twin A), he has to be in the front while riding bikes or scooters, his desire to lead/win is just so strong and I am not sure how to change this behavior. He is 9 and we have been saying for years how it is ok if his bro goes first or if you don't win but nothing sinks in. In swimming his bro is better and beats him in every race but this has still not humbled him.
How do you change this winning mentality? I don't want ruin his drive to compete I just want to alter the reaction to winning. I told him yesterday that sometimes you are more of a winner if you are the bigger person and let a smaller person win.
I just don't know how to handle this any better. He is 9 now and his desire to be first is still as strong as it was on his first day of life.