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Normal? Help with my DS

Posted by on Aug. 25, 2012 at 2:56 AM
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Okay I might be judged for this but that wont be any different then my life so w/e but I am scared for my son.

Alright first of all...his BF (I call him a sperm donator but never near my son) was addicted to drugs, yes I did have a few shots of vodka night weekend before I found out I was pregant and I beat myself up for that EVERY DAY! Also his father (after I kicked him out for doing drugs and being abusive and I know something was up when he started saying our son was possesed well a few weeks after I kicked him out he called from a hospital and told me that he got diagonised with: OCD, ODD (which I thought only kids could get) Bipolar, ADHD, Paranoid Schizophrenia MPD among other things..

Now the docs said I cant really test my DS till he goes through puberty (okay I cant spell sorry) But latly things are getting even more strange with my 7 y/o

While walking he has to touch everything..pick the leafs off of trees, try to catch the bees/moths, butterflies, gravel fasincates him he has to hold on to it feel it and then slowly drop it, like making a path. When inside its walls, groceries, books, he just always needs to touch it.

He needs an anserw for everything but before I can finish my sentece he is onto his next thought, he is laughing at his own thoughts (which his father used to do)

He hasn't liked stories in a long time, he only likes non fiction ones. He then needs to know WHY Pompeii was built by the mountain. And why after the big eruption was another town built near there. He wants to know the real name for everything (types of slugs/butterflies/birds so on)

Dont get me wrong I love that he is so curious, but I get so worn out. I am so tired I cant think of more examples right now...but he isnt asleep even though I put him to bed over 4 hours ago.

So judge me for being a horrible parent for not being able to controle him all the time, when he darts away in stores, or doesnt seem to hear me so I have to raise my voice in the store, or the boy that touches the box of ceral that you want as I walk past it, but maybe some of you have been through this and can help me. I am in tears here.

Posted by on Aug. 25, 2012 at 2:56 AM
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country280
by Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 3:17 AM

It sounds like my son you are writing about. Its normal. 

frndlyfn
by Gold Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 3:47 AM

The constant wanting to know information sounds like a typical child.  The constant need for stimulation -touching walls, rocks, items at stores etc sounds like it could be something that could be caught now and not as severe as what his father was supposedly diagnosed with.  My 6 yo dd can change topics so fast our heads spin as well as laugh at her own jokes which we never hear.

Lydlou02
by Bronze Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 8:09 AM
What do they mean you can't have a kid evaluated before puberty?
Get a new doc.
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disneymom2two
by Bronze Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 8:23 AM
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Find a new doctor.  Paranoid schizophrenia and MPD (official diagnosis would be Dissociative Personality Disorder) are usually diagnosed later although in rare cases they are diagnosed early.  The other diagnoses, ADHD, ODD (usually diagnosed around 8), OCD, and Bipolar (frequently diagnosed in adolescence but can be diagnosed at any age) are not limited to adulthood.  What he does may well be normal for curious, 7 year old boy but getting an eval may put your mind at ease.  Talk to your school psych. They may be able to give you a list of doctors who will conduct evaluations (our district will give you a list of those in the community but is not able to actually recommend anyone).

coolmommy2x
by Silver Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 9:10 AM
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Find another doctor! Even if some things can't be detected now, you'll have a benchmark for comparison later. The questioning can be normal. The touching could be normal or an indicator of something else and it could be as simple as just a need to self soothe or stimulate. Take a deep breath, you're not a bad mom and find a another doctor who is willing to work with you.
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Kris_PBG
by Gold Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 9:26 AM
I agree with the 3 posts above mine.
wakymom
by Ruby Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 9:34 AM

I agree w/ finding another dr. The constant questioning is fairly normal, but the constant touching and how rapidly his changes subjects seems a little excessive to me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

ProudMommy51006
by Bronze Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 9:41 AM
Yes, find a new doctor... But you really sound paranoid... Sounds very normal for an inquisitive 7 year old. When I was young, I had to touch everything also.... It was stimulating and cured my curiosity.
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twokids0407
by Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 9:41 AM
I would get a 2nd opinion. Get ahold of a c child psychiatrist. Sry not much help
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LilyBeansMom
by Bronze Member on Aug. 25, 2012 at 10:54 AM
He sounds like an intelligent, active little boy. I have a 7 year old daughter. I know there is nothing "wrong" with her, but she is most definitely on the high end of the active scale! She asks so many questions, interrupts before she even gets the answer to move on to the next thing, NEVER stops talking... She totally wears me out sometimes. I have bipolar disorder and dh has add. I get that it makes you really watch your child and worry about things. It can make you read too much in to totally normal behavior. Is it possible your child has ocd? Sure, maybe. It is more likely that he is just 7. You are not doing anything wrong. If you are still concerned, then you need a doctor that respects your concern and answers your questions! Shop til you find one who does!

On a side note - your ex's laundry list diagnosis sounds a little hinky. I would not read too much into all that, either!
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