already they suspended my kindergartner! Only for the day, but still! Since day one they have been telling me how bad my 5 year old is.
He doesn't want to come in from recess- No kidding. What 5 year old whats to stop playing.
He is pinching kids- Until that day he had never pinched anyone, so what I wanna know is who pinched him first!?
He is one of the smartest kids in his class. He was learning last year when his older brothers where in kindergarten. I thought that they were suppose to help him learn to listen to rules. I have taught him and at daycare he does not behave this way!
I hope you and the school find a way to partner, or it will be a long year for all involved.
Ps- I've been teaching primary grades for a while and I've never have a child refuse to come in from recess. (I am assuming that when you say he does not want to go In that he also acts on that, as not wanting to do something is simply a cognition... I am guessing he does something to act on that so that the teacher knows this is what he is thinking). What you are describing does not sound "run of the mill".
Ideally, parents abd schools partner to help the child grow. Sounds like that is what is needed.
What do you mean when you say he doesn't want to come in from recess? What does he do? What have you done to help him understand that he needs to listen to the teachers and follow the rules? What consiquences does he have at home for not following the rules? Also, what does it matter who taught him to pinch, you should be working on getting him to stop doing it.
Starting on day 1, they said "your kid is bad"? Who is they? Her teacher, the school counselor, the principal? Did they actually say, "Mrs. MysticLove, your kid is bad"? That's nuts.
Did they express concerns with behaviors? What steps led up to his suspension? Did he get warnings or anything, or did they go right to suspension? Did you ask them what you can do at home to reinforce their policies? Why do you assume someone pinced him first?
When he doesn't want to come in from recess he goes and hides under the slide. I want to work with the school, but the teacher just seems to want to wash her hands of him and send him to transitional kindergarten. That is a 2 year kindergarten and he would get bored their because they do pre-k work and he is smarter than that (even his teacher admits that)
The teacher is the one who told me the first day. The only act that they send him home for "offically" is that he wouldn't come in from recess. Once he gets into the classroom he behaves again. I know he shouldn't be doing this and I keep working with him every night.
Quoting wissotamum:Starting on day 1, they said "your kid is bad"? Who is they? Her teacher, the school counselor, the principal? Did they actually say, "Mrs. MysticLove, your kid is bad"? That's nuts.
Did they express concerns with behaviors? What steps led up to his suspension? Did he get warnings or anything, or did they go right to suspension? Did you ask them what you can do at home to reinforce their policies? Why do you assume someone pinced him first?
You need to talk to him and reinforce that he has to stop playing and go line up when recess is over. Set up a reward system at home where if he comes when called in from recess for 5 days in a row he gets a small (and I mean really small) treat. Like maybe an extra story at bedtime or he gets to choose a game for the family to play together.
Kindergarten is about more than being smart and if a child can't follow the rules and is having a lot of trouble socially, they will be held back. So start working on this now. It will only get worse the longer that you wait. The teacher can not do this alone, it is a parnership, and you shouldn't expect her to do this alone either. He is your child and it is ultimately your responsibility to make sure that he understands the rules and follows them.
WOw mama. It sounds like he dosen't mesh well with the group and/or the teachres. He could be bored, which could cause the outbursts. Also, if the other children act this way then he could be following behind them.
I think before they suspended him, they should have brought you in for a conference so you all (you, teacher and child) can discuss what's going on. I think immediately jumping to suspension was quite hasty of them.
He called my 5yr old fat.
- MysticLove
on Aug. 28, 2012 at 10:03 PM