Kindergartner refused to do homework tonight
She is generally disrespectful and likes to talk back. With me anyway. As far as I know, she doesn't treat anyone else like that, and I don't know what to do. For now, I am only worried about her homework. She did it Monday, and she didn't have any yesterday. Today, she refused to do it. I told her to stay in her room until she decided she was ready, and if she never came out, daddy would make her do it when he gets home (she listens to him.) Well, surprise surprise, she actually stayed in her room for me. I found out it was because she had fallen asleep on her bed. What am I supposed to do to get her to do her homework? I can't offer rewards for it three days a week, and even if I could, that's ridiculous to me. Stickers just don't get it anymore. Any help that doesn't require a complete overhaul of my parenting style?
If you don't want to change your parenting style, then you are just going to have to suck it up and deal with a child that doesn't respect you. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but that is how I roll.
1. Stop using your husband. She needs to listen to YOU.
2. Natural consequences. If my kids do not have their homework done and submitted on time, they use their recess in class to get it done.
3. I prefer "you get ______if you do_______". For example, our kids know that homework, chores, and dinner need to be done before watching TV at 7pm (our time to turn on TV). If they finish early, they have to find something to do until 7pm. If not, they are in their rooms or at the dining table finishing up. I've never really had problems.
No. I appreciate it. I don't know how to do that, though. I thought someone might have a quick fix that would give me some time to think about it. We had a reward system that worked (Accountable Kids). It was all based on her wanting to do it and worked for about 6 months. Now she just refuses to "play" anymore. She would rather go without the rewards (like getting to watch My Little Pony, which she loves.) She is stubborn as all get out. I just don't know, but thank you for your words.
Quoting steelcrazy:
If you don't want to change your parenting style, then you are just going to have to suck it up and deal with a child that doesn't respect you. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but that is how I roll.
Quoting momtoBrenna:
Is the work too hard, too easy or does she refuse because you asked her to do it? I would tell her that school is her job nd she has to do her homework to do well at it. Perhaps, speak to her teacher and find out if there's someway that she can help to motivate her. Good luck.
I never send my son to his room, going into a room full of toys and a place to sleep doesn't seem like a punishment to me :)
Quoting M4LG5:1. Stop using your husband. She needs to listen to YOU.
2. Natural consequences. If my kids do not have their homework done and submitted on time, they use their recess in class to get it done.
3. I prefer "you get ______if you do_______". For example, our kids know that homework, chores, and dinner need to be done before watching TV at 7pm (our time to turn on TV). If they finish early, they have to find something to do until 7pm. If not, they are in their rooms or at the dining table finishing up. I've never really had problems.
That's a good idea. I'm afraid she would do a bad job if I forced her that way, though. I guess a bad job is better than no job. I guess consequences could be taking it into her teacher not finished. I think she would be very embarrassed.
Quoting aj23:
Make her sit at the table until its done.
I never send my son to his room, going into a room full of toys and a place to sleep doesn't seem like a punishment to me :)
Quoting momofemy:
There's no need to be embarrassed, kids can be stubborn.
Embarrassment because of lack of effort is a great learning experience.
Quoting momofemy:That's a good idea. I'm afraid she would do a bad job if I forced her that way, though. I guess a bad job is better than no job. I guess consequences could be taking it into her teacher not finished. I think she would be very embarrassed.
Quoting aj23:
Make her sit at the table until its done.
I never send my son to his room, going into a room full of toys and a place to sleep doesn't seem like a punishment to me :)
I will not miss Math Homework!
Now they know how it feels! (Edit)
- momofemy
on Aug. 29, 2012 at 6:50 PM