4th grade sex ed videos (sorry,kind of long)
When I was a kid, I remember having a brief overview video in 4th grade, and a more detailed video about girls and a brief video about boys in the 5th grade. And they split the class up and showed the videos to the boys and girls at the same time. And they sent home a permission slip beforehand, so parents knew it was going on and could be prepared when they talk to their kids. Well, my DS is in 4th grade, and last night, he asked me to talk to him privately (not around dad or brothers and sister). When we were alone, he almost couldn't get the words out (he said it hurt his brain to think about it), but he finally told me that they separated the boys and girls, and the boys watched a Hardy Boys video (you know, the male counterpart to Nancy Drew), and when when they got back, one of the boys asked the girls what they did, because when they came back they were all giggly. So one of the girls told them what their video was about. My DS was all sad, asking me why do kids have to grow up so fast, why do they show this in elementary school and not wait till college? (awww, so sweet and innocent) What I want to know is WHY didn't they do both sexes at the same time? If they had, I would have gotten a permission slip, so I would have known what was coming and been able to talk about it with him first. Instead, he's hearing things from people who don't know what they're talking about, rather than from his dad and I or the school. DUH, if they show a video like that to the girls, somebody's going to say something! I could have prepared him. I am so upset that they did it this way. And it upset my DS, too. Am I right to feel like this? Am I overreacting? I just feel like I should have had a chance before he starts learning the wrong things from his peers.