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Marion School under fire after bathroom rape

Posted by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 12:26 PM
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http://www.fox59.com/news/wxin-marion-school-under-fire-after-bathroom-rape-20121010,0,1938458.column

Marion, Ind.

It is a traumatic situation, no matter how old you are.  A second-grader was allegedly assaulted in a bathroom at Kendall Elementary School in Marion.

There are often two sides to every story, this one is no different.  There are parents who say the school did too much, and others who say the school did not do enough.

"What he did to my son is not okay," said the victim's mother.  "It is not fair for my son to have to deal with what he has to deal with now.  He is 7."

The mother of a second grader said her son was raped inside a bathroom stall at Kendall Elementary.

"Devastated that something like that could happen to my child at a place where he is supposed to feel safe," said the victim's mother.

It only stopped because a third-grader walked in, saw what was going on, and helped break it up.

"It just makes you sick," said the mother of the boy who helped break up the incident.

Both parents said they did not find out what happened until well after the fact.

"A week later," said one of the mothers.  "Not the day that it happened, I was notified by the police department a week later that my child was involved in an incident."

Neither boy wanted to go back to school.  Parents said they should have known sooner, the school says it took appropriate action.

"Obviously it is very important that we protect the identities of students, for several reasons," said Marion Community School Superintendent Stephen Edwards.  "We know there are individuals out there who are talking and accusing us of covering it up, that has not happened."

"Something did happen, but it is being made out to be more than what it was," said Nikki Noffsinger.

Nikki Noffsinger's says her son has been expelled from school.  She said her son was playing games on the internet, when a few curious clicks took him to a site he should not have been on.  She said her son was simply acting out what he saw.

"I understand the school needs to take this very seriously," said Noffsinger.  "They have to make sure that other children are protected as well, but he is 7-years-old.  Come on, he is being treated like a pedophile and he is not."

Noffsinger said the whole thing has been blown out of proportion.

"I believe that there may have been something inappropriate with the two boys, but the school alleges that it was some kind of prison rape scene," said Noffsinger.

The parents of the other two boys said every day is a lesson in damage control.

"These days, it does not matter how old they are, things happen all the time," said one of the mothers.  "Age does not matter anymore."

"I would never want another parent to go through anything like we have had to go through with our kids," said the victim's mother.  "It is terrible."

All three boys: the alleged victim, the alleged perpetrator, and the boy who saw it happening are all undergoing counseling.

Okay, so first let me say that my boys do NOT go to this school. They go to another school in Marion called Riverview, but Kendall is the other BEST option to send the kids, if you do public school, in Marion. Also from what I have been told by people around here is that the news does not have all the facts correct. The parents were called within 1 hr of the incident. So what are your thoughts on this? My heart goes out to these kids. Also I don't think the boy was raped. I've been told he was molested. Either are terrible for a child though to go through. The boy who did this, his mom seems cracked to me. If he did learn this from the computer, where was the mother when he was viewing this stuff? I don't watch over my boys every second of the day but I do check on them every few minutes to make sure they haven't come across something that they shouldn't have. Makes me wonder if something like that has happened to the poor boy.

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laird6372
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 12:46 PM

My question is: Where the hell were the parents when a 2nd grader was surfing the internet and found porn? The mom blames it on him acting out what he saw, but he should have been properly supervised!

My heart goes out to these boys, especially the victim. I think it is amazing that the 3rd grader came in and broke it up. He showed real courage!!

As for the school, you can bet your ASS I'd be all over them for not telling me that my child was assaulted. They didn't have to give out names to make a call and tell a parent that their child was assaulted, or that they assaulted someone!

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CrazyBeautiful.
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 12:50 PM

That is how I feel about the moms excuse. Did you see where I commented at the bottom? The parents were contacted within 1 hour of the incident, so the news does have that wrong. All 3 sets of parents were called and at the school in a timely manner. 

The 3rd grader in my eyes is a little hero!  

Quoting laird6372:

My question is: Where the hell were the parents when a 2nd grader was surfing the internet and found porn? The mom blames it on him acting out what he saw, but he should have been properly supervised!

My heart goes out to these boys, especially the victim. I think it is amazing that the 3rd grader came in and broke it up. He showed real courage!!

As for the school, you can bet your ASS I'd be all over them for not telling me that my child was assaulted. They didn't have to give out names to make a call and tell a parent that their child was assaulted, or that they assaulted someone!

 

la_bella_vita
by Bella on Oct. 11, 2012 at 1:09 PM
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 It rbs me the wrong way that the mother is saying he is acting out what he saw on the computer. Regardless, that is not normal and does not excuse it. I'm not saying arrest him but please get him help and not try brush this away.

My heart goes out to the two boy and I hope the truth comes out and whatever is approrpiate happens.

snowangel1979
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 1:36 PM
I have mixed feelings about he just saw it on the computer and mimiced it. Where where the parents when he was online.

I don't think the parents would have said they found out a week later from the police, if they would have found out that day or maybe the school down played it a lot. I'm not saying It's true or not but who's to say that what you are hearing is the correct information eather. Ever play the telephone game as a child. Where one person says something and by the time it gets down the line, It's wrong.

I'm sorry but if your child gets caught raping or molesting another student he should be removed from the school. The victim should be protected not the perpetrator.
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mjande4
by Platinum Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 1:46 PM
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There are strict laws in place when things like this occur.  I do NOT believe for ONE second that the parents were not contacted until a week later.  They are the second AFTER the police.

CrazedMomof2
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 1:49 PM

 Oh man.

corrinacs
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 3:06 PM
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Wow.....I heard the mother of the child taht did the incident....and yeah, seems totally cracked to me.  I am sorry, but sexual promiscuity doesn't start off with the boy actually molesting another child.....its starts with smaller acts. So either his mother is blind as bat (doesn't watch her kid) or she's in total denial.  Either way, this kid needs some help.

But I do feel so badly for the child that was molested and the child who walked in on the act.  Both of them are scarred for life and I hope that their parents are taking appropriate actions with law enforcement, thier pediatricians and psychologists.

CrazyBeautiful.
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:32 AM

I don't either. Kendall is a very good school with an excellent principal. My mom was told by another parent who's child goes to Kendall that they were contacted right away (or within an hour) and that the parents were only saying that to the news to stir up controversy. It is such a shame that these parents who have said that seem more concerned with degrading the school to the news world then helping their own children through this.

Quoting mjande4:

There are strict laws in place when things like this occur.  I do NOT believe for ONE second that the parents were not contacted until a week later.  They are the second AFTER the police.

 

RLT2
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:41 AM

I expect there's more to this story, and I don't believe the parents weren't notified until a week later. that sounds like BS. the mother of the boy who did this is living in denial land, for sure. And where was she when this kid saw this stuff anyway?

daughteroftruth
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:46 AM

Uh, who lets their 7 yr old play on the Internet unsupervised, or at least does not have some form of parental controls to keep that kind of crap away.  


What I get from this, is that the perpetrators mom is the main one at fault.  Huge parenting fail, and now three kids are suffering the consequences. 

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