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I posted this in another group a few days ago but I wanted to post it here as well and get your take.

My son wa sent home Friday with a letter stating that the school will be having an assembly that will be talking about good and bad touches and relationships between adults and children. My ds is in k and I think it's hugely inappropriate for the school to be having an assembly like this. It's crossing the line.
It's for the parents to do and we do talk to ds about it. Well ds is 5 an likes to make up stories. After having a talk with ds about no one touching his privates and ect the next morning he told me that grandma, grandpa, daddy, and he just went down a list if family members, were in his room punching him. This was impossible because our closest family is 750 miles away. But just an example that ds likes to make up stories. I've also talked to him about not making up stories as they can have serious consequences. But he's 5 and he also has ADHD and dosent fully grasp it. So ds will not being going to the assembly because my luck is hell make up a story at school and we will be investigated. Plus again I think it's very inappropriate for the school in the first place to be talking to the kids about it. Even if is ds didn't make up stories he would not be going.
Now I understand that some parents may not teach their kids about these things. And I think they have that right. It's not the schools place.

Does your kindergardeners ( or up) have assemblies like this. Do you allow them to go or would you allow them to go.

Edit- apparently it's a very normal thing is some places. Not where I live. I never had these kind if talks in school growing up. I also emailed a few friends for dont live in my area ad a few cousins. All but one got back to me and said their kids don't have talks about this in their schools either. My one cousin is a teacher and he said they don't talk about it at his school either. I also taught preschool for 5 years at two different schools in two different states. Both very good preschools. We never had these talks with our kids either. In fact at my last preschool it was on the list of things we were not to talk to about with kids even if they brought it up. And this was a top rated school. One of the best in the state. So it's not done everywhere.
I also gave the paper here of what will be talked out with the children.
Good touches and bad touches, molestation, and rape is also mentioned. I pray to go they will not be talking about rape and even molestation with 5 years olds. I hope it's for the higher grades.
Im going I email the teacher and ask for more info. I'm thinking about going with ds to this assembly this way I can see what is being talked about and also so if I don't like what being talked about I can grab him and leave.
This letter was a huge shock to me. It's not something we had in school growing up or that my friends kids have had either. So this letter was a huge shock.
Thanks for all your feedback. Although the few rude comments I got were very uncalled for.
I was also shocked that only 1 mom agreed with me that its to takes about at home not school.

And again ill say how ds knows what a good touch and bad is. He learns it at home. So it's not like he doesn't have the info.
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by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 6:40 PM
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iansusie
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:15 PM

My son is in a private school and got the talk in K.

Quoting Raeanne1987:

I have my dd in private school and this is one of the reasons why, they want to teach our kids things way to early. Now I don't believe in sheltering my child but it is MY duity as a parent to teach MY child on this subject. The more we put in our kids heads the more curious they get and we wonder why there's 12 yr olds having sex... they learn the basics and want to know what its like.... Now this is just my opinion and Im not knocking down those who disagree.


banana-bear
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:16 PM
Kids most certainly can make up crazy stories with zero truth to them. Around last Halloween on the drive to school, I told my oldest she was cut off from candy. When the para opened the door, my daughter proceeded to tell her that I said I was going to cut off her head. Kids can get things confused all the time, especially those with delays and disorders. It's important to take what they say with a grain of salt and dig deeper for more details. Then later on, recall the event in question and see if the story sticks.

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

You said that you talked to ds about it.... if you did... he wouldn't be making up these stories. My oldest is ADHD with anxiety and my youngest LOVES to make up the most obnoxious stories ever. NEVER have they EVER once made up a story like that. You are doing a disservice to your son. I stand by my original comment. And as a previous pre-school teacher. We had someone who used to come into all of the classrooms every year and talk to the kids about good and bad touches... you said your school didn't.... what a crappy school.

Quoting brittani:

Ds knows the difference. I don't thinks its a disservice. Hell still be goin to school that day he just won't be goin to the assembly. I think it's my place and my job not the schools.

I'm thinking about going with ds and then if I don't like the assembly I can take ds and leave

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I don't think it's inappropriate at all. I think it's extremely important for every child to know what an appropriate touch is. I thing you're doing your son a diservice by not sending him to school. You could always talk to the school and the teacher, explain how your son is and they can always follow up with him and have a counselor at the school explain it in a way he will be able to grasp it.




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maxswolfsuit
by Max on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:19 PM
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I had assemblies like this growing up. It's nothing new. They are informing parents. If you're uncomfortable ask exactly what will be discussed. 

I can't imagine having an issue with schools working to keep kids safe. But it seems like no matter what schools and teachers do someone is going to be unhappy about it. 

Raeanne1987
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:20 PM
I personally don't trust others in the way they would handle talking to my daughter, my dd knows private areas and such and who to talk to if someone tries to touch or asks her to see them or asks her to look or touch theirs...
I just don't want my dd tought it in a way I have no control over, then again here public schools are trying to start sex ed in Kindergarten. So i think it would be more than a private area talk and that is beyond not okay with me.
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maxswolfsuit
by Max on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:21 PM


Quoting ashleyrenee24:

I remember being taught good touch and bad touch in elementary school. I don't see the problem.

I am wondering why the OP is surprised by this. I got the talk in the seventies. I clearly remember the lady who came and talked to us actually. 

deedee3849
by Bronze Member on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:21 PM

I think each parent knows their child best and should determine if it's appropriate for their child to attend. As long as the child hears the message from someone...that's the important part!

maxswolfsuit
by Max on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:24 PM

You might want to do a little research. Kids are far more likely to be abused by family members and people they know than a stranger. 

Quoting brittani:

I never had it in school an I taught preschool for 5 years and we never taught them things like this.
I'm majority of cases it's not the parents touching their kids is other family members or step parents.
The parents should be talking to the kids. I wouldn't think it was so inappropriate if it was for like 2 nd grade and up. But k seems really young for me. Ill continue to talk to ds. A mom In other group said to go with ds. I'm still thinking about that one. This way if I don't like what they are talking about I can take ds and leave.


Quoting JasonsMom2007:

If my son was in public school yes, I would allow him to go.  IMO it is very important and cannot be stressed enough.  Besides, for some kids the adult might be the one touching them.

We used to teach good touch bad touch in preschool.  It's pretty standard curriculum.



banana-bear
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:25 PM
FWIW, I have never heard of such a thing. The earliest we had anything of this nature was in 4th grade (human growth and development). I was in elementary school from like 1991-1996 in FL - not sure if that has anything to do with it.

Quoting maxswolfsuit:


Quoting ashleyrenee24:

I remember being taught good touch and bad touch in elementary school. I don't see the problem.

I am wondering why the OP is surprised by this. I got the talk in the seventies. I clearly remember the lady who came and talked to us actually. 

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Raeanne1987
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:26 PM
They don't at the school my dd goes to. They send papers home with pointers on how to talk to ur children and offer a counsler to help if u want, cuz face it not all parents and open about it. But it is NOT part of the class


Quoting iansusie:

My son is in a private school and got the talk in K.


Quoting Raeanne1987:

I have my dd in private school and this is one of the reasons why, they want to teach our kids things way to early. Now I don't believe in sheltering my child but it is MY duity as a parent to teach MY child on this subject. The more we put in our kids heads the more curious they get and we wonder why there's 12 yr olds having sex... they learn the basics and want to know what its like.... Now this is just my opinion and Im not knocking down those who disagree.



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iansusie
by on Oct. 14, 2012 at 7:31 PM

Well, all I am saying is that some private schools have the assembly, too. Let's face it though, my 5 yr old couldn't even tell me what they talked about cause he wasn't paying attention :? They did send a book home and told us to decide whether or not we wanted to read it to our kids. I did and all my son said was, well, I have not been touched bad by anyone but I will tell if I am! He asked a few questions and that was all...

Quoting Raeanne1987:

They don't at the school my dd goes to. They send papers home with pointers on how to talk to ur children and offer a counsler to help if u want, cuz face it not all parents and open about it. But it is NOT part of the class


Quoting iansusie:

My son is in a private school and got the talk in K.


Quoting Raeanne1987:

I have my dd in private school and this is one of the reasons why, they want to teach our kids things way to early. Now I don't believe in sheltering my child but it is MY duity as a parent to teach MY child on this subject. The more we put in our kids heads the more curious they get and we wonder why there's 12 yr olds having sex... they learn the basics and want to know what its like.... Now this is just my opinion and Im not knocking down those who disagree.




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