For starters, I have 6 kids. You'd think that I have dealt with just about everything over the years, but I am at my wits end with my youngest. He is unbelieveably clingy at bedtime. He will not fall asleep unless I lay with him. Every once in a while, he will fall asleep laying with his dad in our bed, but then I have to move him and he wakes up and I have to lay with him until he falls back asleep. Any other problem, I would just be firm and deal with the tantrums until he finally gets the picture, but then NO ONE gets any sleep. He will keep it up until midnight or later, keeping the other kids awake and annoyed, then cranky from lack of sleep the next day. My husband has no patience with it anymore and has started yelling at him to "grow up" which just makes it worse. I have tried bribery, begging and pleading, threatening and letting him do the 9 year old version of "crying it out" which just gets the entire house into an uproar. It's to the point where I have pretty much given up and just lay with him, but I often fall asleep in his bed, and then my husband will wake up and realize I am not there and comes in and wakes me up to move into our bed, which disturbs both of our sleep. If he knows I am really tired, he will just leave me there, which my son loves, but I would really rather sleep in my own bed, with my husband. It wasn't so bad when he was younger and he would just come and climb in bed with us. But we finally got to the point where he was sleeping with us most nights. We finally got him to sleep in his own bed-but only if I am there. Once he is asleep, he usually sleeps through til morning. If he wakes up though, he will come in and wake me up and the only way to get him back to sleep is to take him back and again lay with him until he's asleep. The worst is that I have to be up at 5:30 to get my daughter up for school (her bus comes at 6:35 am). And if I don't get her up (which is a chore in itself because she is a VERY heavy sleeper), she will oversleep. The only alarm we could find that will wake her up, also wakes up the entire house. SO I am often up til midnight with one, then back up at 5:30 with the other. I am not getting enough sleep and have started getting really run down. My husband wants me to just spank him, but I refuse to spank him for not wanting to fall asleep alone. There has to be a better way than that, I just can't figure out one.