My 10 y/o daughter is overall a very good kid, a straight A student, plays sports throughout the year, and has plenty of friends. However, she has severe issues when it comes to her personal hygiene. She will wear the same underwear for days, she does not wipe after using the bathroom, she does not wash her hands, and she does not flush the toilet which is a huge problem because she has her own bathroom in her room and I don't always catch it right away and her bathroom and room stink to high heaven. She does not shower unless she is being told and if she doe shower, she will barely get wet and that's it. I will need to stand right there to make sure she uses soap and washes all the nooks and crannies. She does not brush her teeth and if she does she does such a bad job that her teeth are starting to look yellow and just pure nasty. She will sleep in her street clothes unless I check on her and tell her to change into her PJs.
I am at my wits end. I have tried everything under the sun. I have tried to make hygiene more "attractive" by takingher to the store to buy fancy shower gels, soaps, tooth pastes, tooth brushes, etc., etc. I have explained in great detail that she can actually get sick if she does not brush her teeth and does not wipe after using the bathroom. I have discussed this with her in a patient way and things have gotten heated, too, afterall she is very capable as a 10 y/o and seems to understand but keeps resisting. I have discussed this with her pediatrician and she seems understandig but nothing ever changes.
I am so fed up with this. Yes, I am angry and disgusted. She is such a very smart kid, way ahead of her peers in many things and she knows very well that this is unacceptable but she does not seem to care. I know I should not feel that way but I find her behaviour, regarding her poor hygiene, extremely disrespectful.
How can I help her change and take care of her body?