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Help me help DS to understand.

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My oldest just turned 8. I have never really made him do any "chores".

He has always been an animal lover. Every time the ASPCA commercial comes on he cries because he feels awful for the animals. There have been many times that I have quickly turned the channel because he cries everytime! Love his heart! I always reassure him that the ASPCA is there to help those animals. Lately he has been asking to join. Things are not super tight in our household and we could afford the $18 a month to support the ASPCA. I got to thinking though and thought I could turn this into a learning experience for my DS. I thought he could do a few chores around the house and his allowance could be used to support the ASPCA. Chores being - pick up shoes, hang up his coat and backpack, put plate away after dinner, etc. When I brought this up to DS last night he immediately did not like the idea. His excuse was that this was a family thing and not just for him.

I still think this would be a great learning experience for DS and teach him to work for something he is passionate about. Am I totally off my rocker?

Anyone have any words of wisdom to offer me to better explain why this would be a good learning experience for him?

TIA!!

by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 10:50 AM
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M4LG5
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 1:57 PM

i don't pay my children for chores even if they wanted to donate it.  It's something that must be done as part of our house.

Now, to give them incentives, I do reward them for reading.  $1 for 100 pages. 

SeanandNoahsmom
by Bronze Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:08 PM

 I think what you came up with is a great idea. I am teaching my sons ( 7 & 6) those same chores, as rules instead. They too do not like doing those things. They do get an allowance, though. I just don't tie it together.

jessi2girls
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:08 PM

Why not suggest that he does the chores to.. half of his money from chores goes to ASPCA.. the other half he gets to spend as he sees fit.. (and you pay the remander $9 a month).. This way the family is also involved.. but he's also getting an allowance that he has some control over.. to help him learn to save and manage money himself. 

You can also look into volunteering at a shelter one weekened a month. 

corrinacs
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:21 PM

I think that's absolutely fantastic!

We are starting giving an allowance for Caden too......but I never thought about adding this aspect to it :)

I think that's fantastic :)

nurbabe82
by Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:36 PM

 

Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

Its a great idea...however, all the things you mentioned are things he should be responsible for on his own as part of taking care of and cleaning up after himself. Keeping his stuff picked up is his job.

IMO chores should benefit the family. What I say to my kids is I pay them for things that should be my job as a SAHM. Taking out the trash, scrubbing floors, cleaning bathrooms, taking care of family pets, housework, etc.

If you are going to do this as a lesson, I would have him use a percentage of his allowance and cover the rest. $18 a month is a lot for a chid, I would split it...say $5 a week for chores, make a list post it and mark them off as done. (Mine get 50c credit each time they do a chore) for a max of $5 for the week, then on pay day divide it up ~ $1 goes to savings, $2 to ASPCA and $2 to spend, just like you makeahousehold budget.

 

ILoveMyFam
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 2:48 PM


Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

Its a great idea...however, all the things you mentioned are things he should be responsible for on his own as part of taking care of and cleaning up after himself. Keeping his stuff picked up is his job.

This, my 3 year old does those things!

soymujer
by Mikki on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:25 PM

Sounds like a good idea, however, I'd look into supporting your local animal shelter as those commercials are a lie.

family in the van   Mom of four


Danyell9301
by on Jan. 3, 2013 at 3:58 PM

I think it's a good idea. I thought mine to give back at a early age. When their toys are done with, we go through them and pick out the ones still in good shape. We box them up and take them to the local mission or charity drop off. The more stuff they give the more grandparent will chip in to give too. My Uncle will give change for each pound of stuff you give to the local charity. 

Some Humane places will let child tour and see what is needed for the animals, and then he/she can see what they need to work on getting for the animals.

frndlyfn
by Gold Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 4:34 PM

Have him volunteer at a shelter so he can understand what it takes to care for these animals.  Some places appreciate volunteers more than the money.   He needs to learn how to contribute to the household in some way.

Mom2Boys9501
by Bronze Member on Jan. 3, 2013 at 4:35 PM

 Maybe you could still make it a family thing? Give him $18 worth of chores to do a month and he gives $9 a month and you give $9 a month. Make up a contract with him so he will see how long the commitment is?

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