How do you draw the line between expecting your kids to keep family issues private and burdening them by expecting them to keep problems secrets.
It's so hard to see kids struggling with issues they don't feel free to talk to anyone about. It's so common for abused kids to be trained not to say anything. The burden they carry is just terrible. But sometimes kids also keep other family issues secret too.
When I was in school I told a teacher something that happened at home. It wasn't serious or anything. My mother was very upset that I had embarrassed the family. I still feel crappy when I think about how upset my mom was. As a parent I dont' want my kids to feel like they aren't allowed to talk about things.
My oldest son will attend the school where I work next year. I certainly don't want him going in and telling everyone every time Dad and I get in a fight, but I also want him to feel free to talk to someone if he's upset about something.
Is this something you talk to your kids about?