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What would you do if this came home in your kids' homework? UPDATE with rest of paper. ANOTHER UPDATE, in red.

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My friend's son brought this home as his homework today:

I am completely shocked!  Her son is 5 and this is the garbage they are teaching.  Disgusting.  I told her, my ds wouldn't do it, and I'd be having a nice little chat with the teacher.  Your thoughts?


For those of you who were wondering about the rest of the paper, I asked my friend and she said the assignment was to match the right picture with the word.  Some of the other words were man, pot, cat, cow, fish, etc.  I still think it should have at least been an animal that was "fat" or something, not a little girl.  It just seems offensive to me, and not how I would want my kids to think of someone.


For everyone who has misunderstood and thinks I'm upset by the actual word "fat", I'll just respond to you all at once here...the word is not the issue.  The big deal is the fact that they labeled a little girl fat.  Factfully she is...but this opens the door for 5 year olds to think it's ok for them to call anyone who isn't skinny "fat" and that is NOT ok.  They should have used a cat, like when my DD (who is almost 8) was in Kinder, they read a book about a fat cat who sat on the mat...not a fat girl!  My DD saw this pic and she told me, "that is mean, Mommy, you are not suppose to call people fat.  Why didn't use the fat cat?"  My 7.5 year old gets it!  Fat is a word and used to describe things, but should not be used to describe a person.  Plain and simple.  Society has turned it into a mean and degrading term, wether it is said innocently by a child, it can still be hurtful to label a person as fat...and for those of you who say it's the parents' job to teach them not to call people fat, unfortunately not all children have the benefit of a parent who takes the time to care.  It's those kids who may look at little Suzie in the class (who is bigger than everyone else) and now associate little Suzie with the fat girl in their homework, and poor little Suzie is now the class fat girl!  And don't try to say it's not a big deal, if your DD happened to be little Suzie and came home upset because the kids in her class compared her to the fat girl on their worksheet, then you'd be singing a different tune.  The word fat, being fat, teaching kids what fat is, is not the issue...labeling a child as fat is. 
 

by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 3:27 PM
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mstricey
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:35 PM
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Notice the fat one has a smile...lol The "skinny" one looks sad and stressed out.
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TTC2Long
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:35 PM
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Lol! You're right! The skinny one totally has 'tude!

Quoting mstricey:

Notice the fat one has a smile...lol The "skinny" one looks sad and stressed out.
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corrinacs
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:36 PM

I think we kind of want a girl too, but we don't care to be honest LOL.  I don't know when we will make the call.  We know its expensive and it takes a long time.  We will see when the time comes.  

I wanted to have Caden and Leo closer together, but we know "nature" had other plans :/.  They ended up 4 years a part and ti worked out quite well!  Caden adjusted well to his brother and is actually a huge help (most of the time).

Quoting TTC2Long:

Wow. 1 already?? Food allergies suck. I hope he outgrows them soon. I know some mamas with several kids with allergies and intollerances and even autism and ADHD so between them all there is SO little they can eat. I get overwhelmed just thinking about it!

Idk if we're done. In about 2ish years we'll see where we are financially and make the call. I REALLY want a girl. So does dh. We're psyched about a brother for Juju, though, and I saved everything, so all we really NEED is a car seat!

Adoption is an amazing thing. Expensive, but amazing! How long do you think you'd want to wait and see? Do you want babies closer together? For me 2 1/2-3 years apart seems perfect. We'll see! Lol


Quoting corrinacs:

Great :).  My Leo (the one we were trying so hard for) is now 1!!!!!!   Where the heck did the time go?

He's got the most food allergies out of any kid though :/.  And he's the size of a 6 month old.  But he's doing great milestone wise.

After this, you want anymore? or are you done?  DH and I talked about it and said if we wanted more, we'd adopt.  We haven't started any serious talks yet though :).


Quoting TTC2Long:

Hey! I'm good - 7 months along already with boy #2! Starting to nest, I start my Bradley classes this week... So exciting! You? :)



Quoting corrinacs:

This is what I agree with too.  Not pictures of girls :).

BTW, hey you, how are you doing?



Quoting TTC2Long:

A fat caterpillar would have been more appropriate.





Quoting steelcrazy:

First off I am very curious what the other words are on the page.  Secondly, I am fairly confident that they are learning about descriptive words, and like it or not fat is a descriptive word that he will need to know in his life.  Would you prefer that they have a picture of a big fat joint for him to circle?





Momyplease
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:37 PM
this mommy got the nail right on the head. I couldnt have said it better myself. perfect

Quoting nickellmomof2:


Quoting steelcrazy:

First off I am very curious what the other words are on the page.  Secondly, I am fairly confident that they are learning about descriptive words, and like it or not fat is a descriptive word that he will need to know in his life.  Would you prefer that they have a picture of a big fat joint for him to circle?

I'm not sure what else is on the page, that's the only thing she posted on FB.  They could very well be learning about descriptive words, however, when my dd was that age and they did descriptive words, they never touched the fat subject.  And what if the parents are bigger, than that could be really offensive.  Not only that, if you have a skinny 5 yr old, he's now going to think that anyone bigger than he is is fat...ya know?  I think it's very easy to teach descriptive words without going here.

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TTC2Long
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:37 PM
So you would be fine if, say, a kid pointed to you in a store and said, "Hey mom, look at that fat lady!"??

Quoting chotovec82:

I don't really see the issue. There are fat people and there are skinny people. If fat people take offense to the word, "fat" than they should consider losing the weight. It's like using black or brown to describe another peron; what's wrong with it? If the person is black or brown and the kid is not making fun of skin color the person. Fat, black (in terms of people), white, big, small, tall, short, etc... are all descriptive words. People need to get over it. Seriously we have become a society of whiney people.

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mamalusbear
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:38 PM
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It doesn't seem like it's the teacher's fault.

dark_xiii_angel
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:40 PM
Are they learning descriptive words or maybe opposites. I remember work like this when I was in school which was a million years ago. Lol.
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TTC2Long
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:42 PM
Yeah, that's the thing - when they're a little farther apart or very close together, there's always pros and cons. Having a little helper and someone that can understand what'a going on is a big pro, in my book. I'm glad it's working out. :)

I really didn't care about the gender, either. Selfishly, I wanted a girl, but a brother for Juju would be so cool, so either way I would have been thrilled. I'm just glad it's not up to us to choose - I NEVER could have made that choice myself!


Quoting corrinacs:

I think we kind of want a girl too, but we don't care to be honest LOL.  I don't know when we will make the call.  We know its expensive and it takes a long time.  We will see when the time comes.  

I wanted to have Caden and Leo closer together, but we know "nature" had other plans :/.  They ended up 4 years a part and ti worked out quite well!  Caden adjusted well to his brother and is actually a huge help (most of the time).


Quoting TTC2Long:

Wow. 1 already?? Food allergies suck. I hope he outgrows them soon. I know some mamas with several kids with allergies and intollerances and even autism and ADHD so between them all there is SO little they can eat. I get overwhelmed just thinking about it!



Idk if we're done. In about 2ish years we'll see where we are financially and make the call. I REALLY want a girl. So does dh. We're psyched about a brother for Juju, though, and I saved everything, so all we really NEED is a car seat!



Adoption is an amazing thing. Expensive, but amazing! How long do you think you'd want to wait and see? Do you want babies closer together? For me 2 1/2-3 years apart seems perfect. We'll see! Lol




Quoting corrinacs:

Great :).  My Leo (the one we were trying so hard for) is now 1!!!!!!   Where the heck did the time go?

He's got the most food allergies out of any kid though :/.  And he's the size of a 6 month old.  But he's doing great milestone wise.

After this, you want anymore? or are you done?  DH and I talked about it and said if we wanted more, we'd adopt.  We haven't started any serious talks yet though :).



Quoting TTC2Long:

Hey! I'm good - 7 months along already with boy #2! Starting to nest, I start my Bradley classes this week... So exciting! You? :)





Quoting corrinacs:

This is what I agree with too.  Not pictures of girls :).

BTW, hey you, how are you doing?




Quoting TTC2Long:

A fat caterpillar would have been more appropriate.







Quoting steelcrazy:

First off I am very curious what the other words are on the page.  Secondly, I am fairly confident that they are learning about descriptive words, and like it or not fat is a descriptive word that he will need to know in his life.  Would you prefer that they have a picture of a big fat joint for him to circle?




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chotovec82
by Member on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:46 PM

Depends... If the kid said that and the mom laughed or something then I might be a bit annoyed. However if the mom said that it wasn't polite to call someone fat than no. That is our job as parents to correct it if it could be hurtful. However if I was fat than that is most likely the only descriptive word that could be used anyways. What if they said, "heavy?"

Quoting TTC2Long:

So you would be fine if, say, a kid pointed to you in a store and said, "Hey mom, look at that fat lady!"??

Quoting chotovec82:

I don't really see the issue. There are fat people and there are skinny people. If fat people take offense to the word, "fat" than they should consider losing the weight. It's like using black or brown to describe another peron; what's wrong with it? If the person is black or brown and the kid is not making fun of skin color the person. Fat, black (in terms of people), white, big, small, tall, short, etc... are all descriptive words. People need to get over it. Seriously we have become a society of whiney people.


TTC2Long
by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 4:49 PM
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And if the mom had replied, "Yes, she's fat. That's right," with no judgement or ridicule, just stating a fact, you'd be fine? That's exactly what I'm saying. There are better, more polite words to use if someone is, indeed, fat. Having it on worksheets like this conveys the message that it's perfectly fine to call a person fat as a descriptor. They could just as easily had a fat crayon, chicken, caterpillar, dog, whatever. I'm sure this one example on one worksheet in kindergarten isn't going to scar a child for life, but it does reinforce a message that is already too prevalent in society.



Quoting chotovec82:

Depends... If the kid said that and the mom laughed or something then I might be a bit annoyed. However if the mom said that it wasn't polite to call someone fat than no. That is our job as parents to correct it if it could be hurtful. However if I was fat than that is most likely the only descriptive word that could be used anyways. What if they said, "heavy?"




Quoting TTC2Long:

So you would be fine if, say, a kid pointed to you in a store and said, "Hey mom, look at that fat lady!"??







Quoting chotovec82:

I don't really see the issue. There are fat people and there are skinny people. If fat people take offense to the word, "fat" than they should consider losing the weight. It's like using black or brown to describe another peron; what's wrong with it? If the person is black or brown and the kid is not making fun of skin color the person. Fat, black (in terms of people), white, big, small, tall, short, etc... are all descriptive words. People need to get over it. Seriously we have become a society of whiney people.


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