How do you hand back talk and smart mouth?

[RaizingBoyz]

My DS just turned 8. In the last year or so he has developed a smart mouth and back talks a lot. What ever I am doing is just not effective. Looking for advice on how other parents handle it.

TIA!

[bunnywzrd]

All I have to do is give my 10 year old dd "the look" and she stops and apologizes. LOL. I know most kids are not that easy. If she gets really bad, which I think has happened only once, I send her to her room for a while.

[natesmom1228]

I tell him that is not acceptable and until he can talk to me appropriately then he is to sit in his room and do nothing. That usually does the trick.

[wakymom]

 Mine get sent to their rm sometimes. Other times, depending on what was said, they get a little smack on the mouth (I know, not a popular action, but it's my house). Still other times, I look at them w/ an arched eyebrow and say, "Excuse me?!" and they reword things.

Dh and I can be pretty smartalecky and sarcastic, so some of the things we let our kids get away w/ saying might not be acceptable to others.

No matter how you decide to handle it, make sure you are consistent w/ it. Eventually they get the message.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[RaizingBoyz]

I should also add that he is very argumentative...

[Kerrigan357]

What things have you tried in dealing with this?  My kids know that actions have consequences.  Make a good choice, good consequences follow.  Make a bad choice like sassing and bad consequences follow such as grounding from his favorite thing or threat of not getting to go to something he was really looking forward to.  That usually works.  Also, how are the other males in your life treating you?  He will follow what he sees, and if Dad is in the house, Dad needs to talk to him about respect for his mother and females in general.  

[Kerrigan357]

That's a good one too!

Quoting natesmom1228:

I tell him that is not acceptable and until he can talk to me appropriately then he is to sit in his room and do nothing. That usually does the trick.

[RaizingBoyz]

Here are the things that I have done...

- take ipod, ipad, playing with friends privilages away

- I have told him it is not appropriate to speak to me that way and it is disrespectful. Then I make his talk appropiately to me

- I have send him to his room or "the chair" (basically time out) - I feel like sometimes maybe he is to old to time out. Yes? No?

[natesmom1228]

Quoting RaizingBoyz:

Here are the things that I have done...

- take ipod, ipad, playing with friends privilages away

- I have told him it is not appropriate to speak to me that way and it is disrespectful. Then I make his talk appropiately to me

- I have send him to his room or "the chair" (basically time out) - I feel like sometimes maybe he is to old to time out. Yes? No?

 

My son is 12 and if he is going to be inappropriate, then that is the way I treat him.

[reche1978]

my kids get smacked in the mouth and if it continues they get privleges taken away

[HunternChase]

I have a 13 year old and almost 8 year old.. I take everything away that I can and if he keeps up I ground them from anything fun.. I don't know what else to do with them..