Old Mom here: is "sexy" the new trendy verbiage for beautiful??
So this is what my 7 & 6 year olds ( boys) have been saying lately, and I forbid it, just as songs with references to it. Example: Gangnum Style. Now, if sexy doesnt mean what it used to, perhaps I am wrong? It IS all over TV, even an M & M commercial. Thanks for your take and advice.
Quoting Paperfishies:
Pretty much is interchangeable with beautiful and attractive. The word doesn't bother me at all.
Most use it like that now, I find the entire concept repugnant. Our society places too much importance on sex. I find it disgusting that people find sex to be the most important part of their "relationships" and personalities and won't allow my son that mentality.
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Sexy, to me, means that the person has sex appeal. That, the way they appear may make you want to bed them or that you'd know someone else would bed them.
Beautiful is admoration for someone's looks regardless of bedding. Little girls are beautiful, pretty, and gorgeous. Grown women can be sexy. Johnny Depp is sexy. Yes, I fantasize, lol
I don't mind the song "I'm sexy and I know it!" but not for a child. Something about a child singing it or dancing to that song that just rubs me the wrong way! I think my reason for this is I was sexually molested from the time of 8 to about the time of 13 and IMHO here is nothing sexy about an 8 year old!!!!!
I have a friend who always says, "OMG he is just so sexy!" about her 4 year old son and I CRINGE every single time!! I tell her "He is beautiful, NOT sexy!"
I'm an older mom, so maybe my age dictates my beliefs, but I am totally uncomfortable with my 9 yr old using the word "sexy." She doesn't understand the connotation, and I certainly don't want her to aspire to be the object of appeal to someone who does!
My boys said it several times when they were younger (my 12 year old was around 10 and my 10 year old was around 8) and I told them that it wasn't something that I found appropriate for them to say. I think if a boy or man finds a woman beautiful, he should use the word beautiful, not sexy. Yes, it is nice to occasionally know you still have it and to be told that you are sexy, but being told you are beautiful as a woman, still means a lot more, because you know a man is looking deeper than just your body when he tells you that you are a truly beautiful woman. I want my boys to know the value of telling a woman that and not what pop culture teaches him, as it sounds like a lot of the moms in this groups want their sons to know as well :)
I am like you I do not allow my kids to say "sexy". I do not feel it is appropriate talk for my 7yr old, even in that very popular song, no. I would rather be called beautiful any day. Being called sexy, I don't see as a compliment. I feel that is something that a husband can think about his wife but not something that should be coming out of our kids mouthes.
My kids are also not allowed to say "hate" or "stupid, or "shut up" b/c they are not nice words. I don't even allow my kids to swear and never will be ok this that. I don't like my husband swearing and so he does his best not to talk like that around me and the kids. He says I am a 1950's wife. What is so wrong with not wanting to have that kind of talk? I feel like people sound far less intellegant when they swear, it is like.... really? you cannot find a better word to use? I feel it is also disrespectful.
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on Jan. 10, 2013 at 2:19 AM