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Advice on Homework time

Posted by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:57 PM
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So everyday is a constant struggle to get my ds that is 7 to get his homework done. I literrally have to sit there for him to do it because if I walk away he stops or starts doing other things like playing with his pencil or just looking around. He was diagnosed with ADHD three months ago but I refuse to drug my kid just because I answered yes to some of the questions they ask to diagnose kids. He has a hard time staying focus unless I'm sitting next to him. The most it has taken us to do homework has been 4 hours!! Sometimes I think he just takes long to see if he can get away with it. He is a very smart kid and does well when he tries. Do any of you moms have any problems getting your little ones to do homework? Please give me some advice I feel overwhelmed! My husband is no help he rather close himself in the room and come out once the kids are in bed.  

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mjande4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:01 PM
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My suggestion would be to set a timer and do 15 minute intervals.
frndlyfn
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:15 PM


Quoting mjande4:

My suggestion would be to set a timer and do 15 minute intervals.

I agree as well as learn how to treat the disorder w/o medication.  Just ignoring it will not work and makes everyone frustrated.  Think how the child must feel not being able to focus on a task.

wakymom
by Ruby Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:16 PM

 Before we decided to medicate ds1, I'd give him 1 minute wiggle breaks- he had to keep moving for 1 minute, jumping, wiggling, running around the table, I didn't care how as long as he was moving. It took a few minutes to get him re-settled, but he was usually able to focus a little better to get the next bit of homework done.

 

 

 

 

 

coolmommy2x
by Platinum Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:57 PM
This. And while I do not think all kids should be medicated, you need to consider what DS needs, not what you want. If he's going to struggle in school and with homework, you're not helping him to succeed by not considering all of the options.

Quoting frndlyfn:



Quoting mjande4:

My suggestion would be to set a timer and do 15 minute intervals.

I agree as well as learn how to treat the disorder w/o medication.  Just ignoring it will not work and makes everyone frustrated.  Think how the child must feel not being able to focus on a task.

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thebailiffs
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:24 PM

I have a friend was was diagnosised with ADHD as an adult. She is very smart, but the only way she could complete her work was in a warm bathtub. When she went on the get her Master's degree she finally went to a psychologist who finally convienced her to take medication and guess what? She could not believe that for the first time in her LIFE she could finally accomplish tasks that she started. She was also amazed that she didn't need to take a bath to get her assignments completed. It was the best decision she ever made and wished her family had given her appropriate medication at the correct dosage when she was young so she could of had the opportunity to learn and not struggle to sit still. 

I agree homework is a battle  and it is painful for everyone. Start early in the day, set a limited of minutes or pages and give him a wiggle break. My son does 2 pages and then gets a 10 min. Break. There are no battles over home work. His teacher tells all the parents if there are struggles tell your child they can do it with the teacher during their recess time. 

Please also understand some kids will just need help with homework.  Some kids will not, yours does.  Mine does, but I invest the time and we get it done.  He gets it on Wed. And we are done by Friday, if not we start the weekend with homework. We are laying down good habits now. It is funny that on weekends he will say, " it sure is nice I don't have homework to do". 


Hope this helps.

birdandchicks
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:00 PM
My dd has ADHD also. We don't medicate because of weight issues. I have to sit with her also. She's 11 now and better about doing it by herself but I still need to monitor. Yes it's frustrating. I read somewhere that if your child has ADHD you should accept that you will always be involved in homework.

I agree about the wiggle breaks. I make it as interactive as I can. Also I will try to multi task while working on it.

At some point I will just give up. There is no point in going beyond what they can absorb.
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calsmom62
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:04 PM
Sit with him and write a letter or create a grocery list/ or even scrapbook while he does his work. Promise to play go fish or throw the ball around after he finishes a worksheets/ assignment.
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soljan
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:21 PM
Thank you for all the advice, ladies. Sometimes you just have to hear different opinions to come up with a solution.
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kmrtigger
by Kandice on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:31 PM

I suggest heading to a book store and picking up two books. 1,2, 3 Magic and Parenting by Love and Logic's. These two books will give you suggestions on how to deal with difficult issues.

Have you got him in to see a therapist or behavioral specialist? Both will teach him coping skills.

M4LG5
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 11:34 PM
All of what the moms said before....and your DH needs to get involved. Its irritating to hear that your dh doesn't help.
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