I love my 7 year old son. He's a happy boy but he's also clingy.
I don't like that. I want to teach my son to be independent and not so clingy. Only because I don't want him growing up to be like me, I'm very clingy and that use to cause problems for the guys who I was with. I like that he wants to hug and kiss me alot. I don't see anything wrong with that, but it just seems like he has to be up my butt alot of the times.
I just want to try to find a happy medium. I want to teach him that it's ok to be affectionate without smothering a person.
I don't want him to have difficulty in a relationship when he grows up because he is clingy.
Is this wrong of me to feel this way?
How can I teach him to not be so clingy?
I also want to teach him that it's ok to be alone. I know adults who don't like being alone and I don't think that it's healthy.
Am I wrong?
Like he doesn't like to watch tv alone (not something that he does all of the time either) I try to even it so that he has some alone time but I also make sure that he gets quality time with me.
Which is sometimes hard because of his baby brother who I have to take care of alot. And my son's schedule, he goes to school, then cub scouts on tuesdays and gymnastics on wednesdays and then bowling on saturdays.
I use to take him until I had my younger son, now I don't because I am taking care of my younger son.
I just want to teach him that it's ok to be alone because I don't want him having problems in his adult life.
I look at it as tough love. Isn't that my job to teach him that?
Just want to know if this is wrong of me to feel this way or it's ok to feel this way.
And to get advice to teach him how to be affectionate without smothering a person.