My daughter is 12 and in 6th grade. She has ALWAYS been a straight A student..and very hard on herself. Her dad and I have NEVER said you have to make straight A's but we have always told her we do expect her to do her best. About 4 weeks ago her teacher called me to notify me that her grade in one of her classes was no where near where it has ever been and definitely not where it should be...she told me that my daughter had a zero for not completing and turning in homework that she was given a 2nd chance to do so. We talked about "outside influences", possible problems at home or in the neighborhood etc. I told her I would talk to my daughter, but I also did some investigating of my own..3 girls at school were "Bullies"- and not just to my daughter, but to other girls in the school. I found out that during PE fights would go on, but the PE coach never caught-on. I made copies of horrible messages sent to my daughter and talked to her when she got home. She told me that she tried to just stay away from the girls, but there is only so much she could do herself. I called the school and was told they took care of it- they transfered my daughter to another class and the teacher walked my daughter to and from the bus..this happened for 1 day and actually only made it worse b/c the next day she had to go back to the same class with the same girls. The messages and threats continued so I went to the school and talked to the principal, I showed her all of the messages, thereats etc. They switched my daughter that day to another classs, made sure her schedule didn't coincide with theirs at all and my daughter was "safe" Since they (the middle of December) there have been no problems and the girls actaully apologized to my daughter.
Today my daughter brings home her report card and she is failing a class...I don't know what think...is it still backlast from the incident (the semester ended right before Christmas break and report cards just went home today) or do I think that she is just not trying her hardest anymore because she has always done so well? I requested a conference with her teachers and I have also deactived her facebook until progress reports in 3 weeks..
It's not goodbye, it's see you soon.