Would you ever do this to your child?
I'm not a fan of using shame as a punishment.
But I wonder what he did.
I am a HUGE fan of the punishment fitting the crime. If he humiliated someone else maybe feeling a little humiliation will help him find some empathy. IDK
No, but I have given consequences some parents would cringe at. I am not my children's friend, I am their parent. It is my responsibility to teach them and guide them not cover up for them.
No, that kind of over-the-top showy punishment usually comes on the heels of years of inconsistent parenting. "Look at me community, it's not me, I'm a good parent". Whatever, lady.
I would in a heartbeat.
If I had exhausted all avenues and nothing worked, then yes. You have to find their currency. Each child is different. Luckily with mine I have not had to go to this extreme. It will be a lesson this little boy will never forget. And He probably won't do the crime again to not do the time.
My son is 19 now and a US Marine. When he was little he was a challenge. Everyday. Nothing shocked me anymore after yrs of his ........expertise of annoryness. I had to come up with creative ways of punishments for him that were age appropriate. Time outs, spankings, the older he got it was then writing sentences, grounding with everything taken away. Then came the chore lists. Not a day but days. Like clearing out the shed, sweeping it out, and putting everything back nice and neat. All day project. Cleaning gutters and washing baseboards. He is the jack of all trades. Even as a US Marine I had to get onto him his last visit. He left his room and truck trashed out and I had to clean it up. Not only does that show disrespect for my home, but laziness from him. I called him and told him I was called the commander in charge of him to come and look at his room, how he left it. He didn't like that. I asked him if he would do that there at base and he said no. So from now on he will be fined.
I don't think so, I'd probably make my kid do something to give back to the bullied kid or the bullied kid's family somehow, if the other family was on board with it. I'd have to think about it to come up with something specific and appropriate but I'd rather do something positive then just humiliate my kid.
If my child was humiliating another person, I probably would. I'm not much for humiliation punishments but if he was humiliating another child I would want him to see how it feels. He would also be demoted a belt rank or two in karate and have to write me an essay on top of "community service" at the dojo and a lengthy grounding. Being an asshole is something I take very seriously.
Quoting jillbailey26:If they were old enough to understand and nothing else was working, yes.
If they were old enough to understand and nothing else was working, yes.
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