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Kindergartner focus/completing task issues

Posted by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:44 PM
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A little background on my ds, he is small for his age, always has been10th- 25th percentile height and 3rd-10th percentile weight.  He is behind on his motor skills, don't know if that's because I never pushed him to write and cut (because it was always a fight to get him to do it) or because he is small.  He has always been busy, he likes to run around and make shooting noises, airplane noises, etc.  He does seem to talk a lot, but can be quiet when we ask him too.  He does sit down and color or watch a movie, but only if it is something that he is really interested in.  We have had issues with him walking around during meal time and if we try to get him to do something he isn't interested in or thinks is boring, he has a hard time completing the task and focusing on doing it.  He will stall and stare out the window or get up and walk around.  Or if it's cleaning his room, he plays and doesn't clean up.  Even small tasks like getting dressed is a big issue some mornings.  I had his parent-teacher conference today and she is concerned about his lack of focus and ability to complete his work on time.  She thinks he is going to have issues next year when he's in school all day long.  He is doing great as far as knowing all the stuff he needs to know.

So I guess I'm wondering if any of you have some tools I can use to help him to focus and learn to get stuff done on time? 

by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:44 PM
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mjande4
by Platinum Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:49 PM

Is he young, as well as small, for kindergarten? From your description, it sounds like he could benefit from another year of kindergarten, but full day.

frndlyfn
by Gold Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 10:50 PM

We have been using puzzles as well as board games to work on what i call "tolerance for sit still tasks"  DD is in first grade and still struggling with finishing things on time for class work .  She hates journal time or writing things.   She was found to have weak muscle tone in her wrists and hands last year so silly putty was our at home therapy for that.  She has 3 specialists working with her this year and it is time for a re-evaluation.

froggymama2
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:07 PM

His birthday is in May, so he's not too young as age goes for Kindergarten.  Our school district doesn't do full day Kindergarten.  I struggle with holding him back because the teacher says as far as knowledge goes, he is at the top of the class.  I'd hate for him to feel even more bored going through Kindergarten again.


Quoting mjande4:

Is he young, as well as small, for kindergarten? From your description, it sounds like he could benefit from another year of kindergarten, but full day.



zebbyzebby06
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 11:07 PM
I was told the same thing last yr. but ds was in prek and did a 60 visit to the k room. Diff teacher diff friends diff room. So obviously he is a bit out of wack. So teacher calls me and says i dont think hes ready. Well dh and i discussed it and we both felt that how can a teacher make this conclusion on a 60min time period when all was new for him. We put him in k anyways this year, he at first was a bit antsy (he ended up with a diff teacher than the one we talked to) and hes doing great now. He had his testing done for 3rd quarter and he had a .57, 1.00 is a first grade reading level. The first week of school or so (which is hard to test that early i think, since kids are still getting use to everything) he was .01, 2nd quarter he was .27. Iam so proud of his progress. We also did a lot of work with him over the summer to help him sit still and do activity books. Wich i think helped.
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thebailiffs
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 12:38 AM

He sounds very typical of a boy. That is exactly how my son was and he is in 1st grade. His handwriting has gotten much better since he writes a lot. Like a pre-writing assisgnment and a final draft each week. 

Can you find a male teacher for him? As long as he is learning and doing his work, I would not worry about it. He will mature. Can you let him sit on an exercise ball/peanut? This way he can move and not get in trouble. 

Good luck!

la_bella_vita
by Bella on Feb. 1, 2013 at 12:43 AM

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calsmom62
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 5:52 AM
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Even though he may have number skills and reading skills, if he has trouble with fine motor, and age appropriate behavior expectations aren't being met, he will fare better if he has another year to develop in these areas.


Quoting froggymama2:

His birthday is in May, so he's not too young as age goes for Kindergarten.  Our school district doesn't do full day Kindergarten.  I struggle with holding him back because the teacher says as far as knowledge goes, he is at the top of the class.  I'd hate for him to feel even more bored going through Kindergarten again.



Quoting mjande4:

Is he young, as well as small, for kindergarten? From your description, it sounds like he could benefit from another year of kindergarten, but full day.





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soymujer
by Mikki on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:39 AM

That sounds like my son when he was in kindergarten.  Now that he's in first grade, the lack of focusing and not paying attention to things he wasn't interested in has turned out to be ADD.  Before having him tested at this age, try some behavior modifications.

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froggymama2
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:23 PM



Quoting soymujer:

That sounds like my son when he was in kindergarten.  Now that he's in first grade, the lack of focusing and not paying attention to things he wasn't interested in has turned out to be ADD.  Before having him tested at this age, try some behavior modifications.


Do you have any suggestions for behavior modifications?  I thought of having him do some school work at home and timing him and if he doesn't get it done he loses some of t.v. time. 

aetrom
by Gold Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 11:03 AM
My first grader is struggling through this right now.... He will not be held back but I am glad we send him later. For us it had been more of maturity issues....
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