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I found out why my son isn't being invited to any birthday parties this winter

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My son is in third grade. He's nine.

In the last month there have been three kids from his very small school, all friends of his not only from school but his soccer team, who have had Xbox slumber parties for their birthdays to which he has not been invited.  I was confused and a little hurt for him. Until today when I found out why.

Apparently all the other kids play Xbox online together every evening.  Their favorite games are Black Ops and Call of Duty. My son has an Xbox but doesn't play online and is only allowed rated E games.  Therefore he's not invited to the parties.

I'm stunned. I guess I'm glad he wasn't invited because if I knew he wouldn't be allowed to go and if I didn't know I would be upset if I found out he had played those games.  But mostly I'm shocked that so many 9 year olds are playing those games online.  There are 19 boys in the third grade at his school and 14 of them are at the party happening tonight.  So my son is one of only five boys in the third grade not allowed to do this? It never occurred to me those games were the norm for third graders.

Wow. Am I that far behind the times?

 

by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 6:00 PM
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midjet117
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:32 PM
Some parents do. My husband has the game for himself. Me personally i just can't grasp the controls

Quoting fullxbusymom:

Eh we just buy them for them.  Problem solved. 

Quoting midjet117:

Those games are rated m for a reason. I remember working at wal mart and having to turn teenagers down because they wanted to buy those games


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bookdragon
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:40 PM

 My sons don't get to play those games either, they're 11 & almost 14. If you don't want him to play those games then he shouldn't. It's unfortunate that his friends don't want him at the parties, they should find a game he can play or skip the XBox for one night.

Kaybean
by Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:43 PM
I agree. Way too young for those games and if that's why my son didn't get invited, then so be it.


Quoting luvmybug:

Wow. I think they are a little young to be playing those games. But that is just me. That sucks that your LO is left out but I think it may be a good thing he doesn't go. I wouldn't let my dd play those games either.

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mjande4
by Platinum Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:46 PM
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Here's the thing though, IF that's the theme of the party then it's natural that he wouldn't be invited.  The x-box games are a social avenue for kids, and although I understand and respect parents who don't want their kids playing, why on Earth would you think that a kid should not play at his or her own birthday party!?


Quoting bookdragon:

 My sons don't get to play those games either, they're 11 & almost 14. If you don't want him to play those games then he shouldn't. It's unfortunate that his friends don't want him at the parties, they should find a game he can play or skip the XBox for one night.



KimberlyMKasten
by Bronze Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 4:46 PM

My 9 year old doesn't even play video games so I don't think you are behind the times at all. Games like that should not be the norm for any kid that age.

sakpoints
by Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 10:33 PM

 Sadly it is becoming more normal.  I would rather have DH not invited than perticipate without my knowledge.  Last summer DD was at a slumber party and watched the first 2 twilight movies at 7.  I was shocked the mom thought it was appropriate for their age or at least didn't ask first. 

alexsmomaubrys2
by Silver Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 10:34 PM

You are behind on the times. Sorry.

alexsmomaubrys2
by Silver Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 10:36 PM


Quoting sakpoints:

 Sadly it is becoming more normal.  I would rather have DH not invited than perticipate without my knowledge.  Last summer DD was at a slumber party and watched the first 2 twilight movies at 7.  I was shocked the mom thought it was appropriate for their age or at least didn't ask first. 

My kids have seen the all the twilight movies but the last because it hasn't come out on DVD yet. When the first one came out they were 5 & 6 years old. I don't see the big deal.


alexsmomaubrys2
by Silver Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 10:38 PM


Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:

I don't censor my kids' video games. They learn from a very young age how to separate fantasy from reality, so I don't have a problem with the games. Lexie was 8 when my brother died; they had been playing Call of Duty on Xbox Live for about six months before that. (He lived in another state, and it was one of the ways they stayed connected.)

good


BKozICan
by Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 10:49 PM

Uh, no. My third grader plays Wii. Honestly, until he gets home from school, does his homework and reads some, has dinner, showers, has basketball and Cub Scouts, plays with brother and dad, he really doesn't have time to play video games very often. I'd say he plays about an hour every two weeks.

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