Another post got me thinking about how to teach our children to stand up for themselves in a healthy positive way. It seems to me that a lot of parents don't know a middle ground. I see posts that are only discussing extremes like either the child is cowering in a corner from fear or they are decking every kid that looks at them wrong. There is a way to teach your child to be assertive using words and other nonviolent tools. I thought this would be a good forum to hear other's opinions of how you teach your child to stand up.
My dd knows to first use words don't just run to the teacher for help immediately. So she will first say I don't like that or please stop doing that etc Second if the annoying behavior whatever it is continues then she is to walk away. If followed I tell her to use words once more and this time say please stop I dont like that if you dont stop I am going to tell the teacher. Something to that effect. and then the next step would be to go to the teacher. I also encourage her to stand up for her friends or others if they are bullied and to never join in with bullying. The only time and this is the absolutely only time that any form of physical confrontation would be appropriate is if it was in self defense of physical harm and that if she does the other steps first then more than likely it should never escalate to that. I am not naive enough to think that this is how she will handle situations everytime but at least I know I have given her the tools and hopefully she will use them if need be.