Well why are they not fitting in?.. If its over proper "friend" manners, thats fixable with guidance..If its because they are just difference/eccentric and like different styles, well, i wouldnt try forcing my kid to change who they are.
In our library there is a whole section about manners, being a good friend, playing nice..
Role playing is great, model good.bad behiors in a friend.
It really does depend on what actual problem is. Like the other ladies have said, there is a wide range of books and advice that can be offered depending on the actual problem. Role playing is a very good way to help your child.
I role play with my daughter I will be the "mean girl" and mean stuff like "go away I don't want to play with you" and then have her respond then we will switch and she will be mean girl and I will show her an appropriate response. I also tell her that not every reaction directed at her is about her like maybe they are just having a bad day and taking it out on her type stuff this happens to all of us young and old where someone may be upset about something that has nothing to do with you and you smile and say, "hi" and they dont respond we tend to take it personal and then start wondering what we did wrong etc well I let he know that this happens and not to take everything so personal.
It is very important now at this age to instill in your child to not base her value on what other people think of her it is important to follow social norms and get along but her self esteem shouldnt go hand in hand with what her peers are saying she needs to learn to look inside for validation.
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