Son in K5 with (possible) ADHD and teacher is fed-up. :(
My son has not been officially diagnosed with ADHD. He's been seeing a therapist and is scheduled to have a "psych test". Since before he started school I had concerns that his hyperactivity would cause issues in the classroom. He's very bright. He's advanced in his math skills and is reading. His memory is fantastic. He's creative and happy. So the issue is, he cannot sit still and focus in class. He misses directions, he gets easily distracted.
Last year, he had a very patient and skilled teacher who was able to redirect him pretty well and seemed to think that he would mature and develop the skills he needed over time. His teacher this year, based on the messages I get from her, seems pretty fed up with him. I get messages saying he had a terrible time staying on task, he's the only child not to complete all of his centers, he was only calm because you were here, I asked him why he cant do that when you're not here, He cannot continue to disrupt the class, I will have to find a way to separate so he does not bother others. The tone of her emails come across very stern. We've had meetings in the past. I'm working with him at home. I'm taking him to a therapist. I have no intentions on putting him on meds. I'm not sure what else I can do. I sent an email back today asking what does the school normally do in situations like this along with some other questions. I also asked to have the principal weigh in. The principal is new this year. He seems young and possible inexperienced. At least that is what I got after talking to him. I was expecting to meet with them this evening but tonight's conferences were rescheduled because of the snow.
I understand how difficult it can be trying to keep him on task. I live with him! I do believe he should be on his best behavior. I don't want to make excuses for him. But I'm starting to really realize that he cannot help it. He really does try to do well. We have a reward system set up at home. I'm starting to wonder if a traditional class setting or his school is right for him. He goes to a private school and I don't believe they have the resources to give special attention to bright students who have a hard time focusing. But they do for students who fall behind.
I really want my son to succeed in school. I truly believe I was overlooked as a child and had I received the attention or style of learning I needed I may have done much better. I went from being gifted and talented to being the kid who "has the potential to do better" and got in trouble for not paying attention in class. I will not let that happen to him. He is so smart. I don't ever want him to be pushed aside because of his inability to sit still.
Another factor is my husband and I split a year and a half ago. At first it was hard for him, but right now he "seems" to handle it very well. Unfortunately my husband doesn't want to work on things. We will most likely be filing for divorce very soon. The therapist seemed okay with how well he's doing with the split. It was hard for me as a child, so I can imagine it's hard for him too.
Any advice on how I can communicate with the teacher? How I can become more proactive? Or anything that experience has brought to mind? Thank you!!!