SS5 has a stuffed puppy that he got when he was just an infant. He brings it back and forth between BM and DH’s house.
Anyways, about three weeks ago we went to his parent teacher conference. The teacher asked who Puppy was, because SS is always writing about him in his journal. We explained that it was an old stuffed animal that he’s always clung too. She described it to us and said that she’d seen SS in town a few days ago (when he was with BM) and she’d noticed he was carrying it with him.
She said she was a little concerned, because by this age (5 – 6) most kids don’t carry their stuffed animals around. She said that playing with it at home or sleeping with it, is one thing, but carrying into stores and restaurants is another. She also said that he seemed very childish when he was carrying around his puppy, compared to how he acts in the classroom. She did say that it’s common for kids to act shy when they see their teachers in town and a lot of kids act differently at home than they do at school, but she was really surprised at how different he seemed (she said he even looked more child-like). This kind of shocked us, because we’ve also noticed more childish behavior when he carries the stuffed dog around (baby voices, more whining, more demanding and impatient, etc.) She suggested trying to wean him off of his puppy.
My question is – did you wean your kids off of their comfort objects or just let them move on, on their own?
We’ve gotten to a point where Puppy usually stays at home or, at the very least, stays in the car. However, we can’t enforce what goes on at BM’s house (we’re 50/50). We do feel like he starts to forget about Puppy when he’s with us, but as soon as it’s time to switch houses, he suddenly remembers Puppy and can’t do anything without him. We’ve also noticed, that he tends to ‘talk through’ Puppy. For instance, instead of telling me he loves me, he’ll say, “Puppy loves you” or he’ll talk in ‘Puppy’s voice’ to say, “I love you.”
I’m just curious – Is this a phase? Did your kids do this? Do you wean them off of their comfort objects? How did you do it?
One last note : SS is the youngest in his school. His birthday is right before the cutoff date, so everyone in his class is older than him.