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I have a question for some teachers

Posted by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:09 PM
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As we are going through school observations and and The ARD or IEP tests.. the school psychologist told me that he seems to be falling in the autistic spectrum through the questionnaire his teacher and I filled out , but would be surprised if he qualified for their "services " meaning SPED I suppose.







How do you deal with kids who are obviously ADHD, AUTISTIC or have aspergers? what qualifies "regular" teachers in that area? How can. a parent help the teacher best in this situation? outside of participating in class I mean ( my presence in his class disrupts his routine and he has complete melt downs ) I hope he is put in a smaller class, he needs more attention than most kids and its not fair to him or his teacher / classmates.



I would like some advice on, honest opinions, actual experiences.... Id like to know what to expect from a teachers viewpoint. thank you!








thank you for the replies, advice and info!


I appreciate it very much :)
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AngelicMommy_72
by Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:12 PM
Lol ok its more than just a question..
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maxswolfsuit
by Max on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:15 PM
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It really depends on the individual child and their needs. 

Some teachers are better than other dealing with kids with specific needs. My principal tends to place kids with teachers he knows have right disposition to work with them.

Make sure you have an open line of communication with the teacher. Share with her how you handle issues at home. But don't go into it expecting her to handle things in a specific way. The way you take care of things at home might not work or really be appropriate for school. Plus, the teacher might have a few new tricks up sleeve. 

How old is he? What kinds of issues is he having at school?

maxswolfsuit
by Max on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:18 PM


Quoting AngelicMommy_72:

Lol ok its more than just a question..

LOL I figured


AngelicMommy_72
by Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:39 PM
He's in pre K, age Five.. sorry lol

He roams the room, has been known to roam out of the room.. he doesn't interact with his peers, plays alone. his motor skills are FAR behind. he can't write any letter or number outside of zero on his own. Most kids are learning their last name, he's not mastered the first letter of his first name.
Since about a month into school his teacher and I have been on the same page. I'm nit worried so much in her ability to handle him... but his ability to evolve. she's a pre k teacher with 23 kids and no assistant lol she only gets him three hours a day. I'm not expecting miracles from her at all. . .
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mjande4
by Platinum Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:41 PM
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What does his pediatrician say?  Have you had him tested outside of school yet?

AngelicMommy_72
by Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:50 PM
But I am curious to some others personal experiences.... maybe it'll help me know what to expect next year n further down the road.

I like seeing both sides of the situation n being open minded, believe it or not ;) lol
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also I do work with him at home, but we've always struggled with him. I've had my sisters n in laws all but call me lazy because he didn't do this or. that, then i would go about trying teaching him. n they'd see his melt downs ...

we more often then not get his shapes drawn after an hour or two. and I'm talking one maybe two shapes. lol
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AngelicMommy_72
by Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:55 PM
No ma'am, not yet. We are looking for a new one, The 1 that he has his birth wouldn't hear my concerns. he actually rolled his eyes.. lol


Quoting mjande4:

What does his pediatrician say?  Have you had him tested outside of school yet?


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SahmTam
by Tammy on Feb. 10, 2013 at 4:03 PM
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 Has his pediatrician referred you to any kind of early intervention? It sounds like that may be a good thing for him. As for the school, I would request a meeting with the teacher, school psychologist, and any relevant support staff (speech therapist (even if he speaks well, if he is indeed on the spectrum he may need help with pragmatics)), learning intervention specialists, etc.).

Tell them what you feel your son needs the most, listen to their suggestions, and ask lots of questions. This can help you get an IEP in place that will best serve hm through the school years. Keep in mind that (in my state anyway) an IEP can be changed/revamped at any time, so it's not like you will be stuck with it if it isn't working. :-)

My oldest son received his educational dx in kindergarten, even before a medical dx. His dx is PDD-NOS, which is a high-functioning form of autism. He's had an IEP since kindergarten and is now a successful 6th grader! He had/has delays in several areas, but his teachers and support staff have all been awesome at narrowing down his learning style and helping me decide what should be written into his IEP (ie: he has speech therapy, social therapy, preferential seating, he has the option for modified tests (but his teachers and I actually discuss this before each individual test based on what we feel he is understanding-- sometimes his tests are modified, sometimes they aren't). There are so many things to try and/or modify!!!! If his tests indicate autism it doesn't necessarily mean a special ed. class (my son has always been mainstreamed), but maybe that is what he needs-- that can all be hashed out in a meeting. I know there are horror stories out there about these kinds of meetings, BUT I think most teachers/schools truly do try to do what is best for the child. :-)

Since one specific area with your son is the wandering maybe his teacher could put in place a reward system for the staying seated. There are probably many other options as well.

The good news is that since it is all new and he probably hasn't tried many modifications yet, there are still many things to try!

Sorry if this is rambly and disjointed. This topic spawns so many thoughts at once that it's hard to capture them all and organize them well! Good luck!

Doodle39
by New Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 4:09 PM

Quoting AngelicMommy_72:
...his motor skills are FAR behind. he can't write any letter or number outside of zero on his own. Most kids are learning their last name, he's not mastered the first letter of his first name. 

Does he qualify for occupational therapy to address fine motor needs?

SahmTam
by Tammy on Feb. 10, 2013 at 4:10 PM
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 I should add (after rereading the title of this post) that I'm not a teacher. Just a mom who is in my 7th year of IEPS. Also, all 3 of my kids now have IEPS for various things (autism, speech, and gifted)- I have a lot of IEP experience. lol

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