I just had my 6th year old son's birthday party , we decided to invite all the boys from his class to the party ( it was a boy theme), everything went great.One kid did not come (lets call him Jack),they rsvp "No". While the party was going on all the boys started to talk in going to Jack's party on the next day. My sweetheart son came up to me and asked me if I could take him to Jack's party next day. At first I thought that there was only one kid going to his party and told my son maybe Jack is having more of a private party and is only inviting a couple of his best friends and did not take it personal until my son told me " No mama all the boys are going, Please take me there"( this is a small school). I was feeling so sad for him, my son Justin (lets name him that way), gets along very well with everyone at school( I did ask him if something bad happened between him and Jack, and he said no) has lots of friends, he has a huge heart, when I told him that we were doing an all boy party he told me " That's not really fair for the girls" ( I could not afford to invite the girls too), I mean he has a huge heart. We know Jack's family, we see each other all the time at school, I could not understand why they left him out but decided to let go. But at the same time I did not feel being friendly to the mom anymore ( I can't be fake), until she approached me to apoligized for not inviting my son, she said her son Jack totally hates my child and they never get along( BTW I always see them playing tag together everytime I go pick him up), she seemed really nervous and guilt. In my opinion Jack is a very sweet shy boy and I can not picture him saying that. Anyways now she wants to to a playdate to make up for all this, she said once Jack has a playdate with my son he will have a different opinion about Justin and at first I said yes but I just feel so akward by all this, I have the feeling she is feeling obligated in doing this, and I dont think I want to do it anymore. Just don't know how to tell her that.
What do you guys think?