how involved do you get in your child making friends?
This question is directed more towards the parents of younger children Kinder or 1st grade. Do you encourage your child to make friends to the extent that you host play dates and accept all invites to partys, are you friendly and fun when other kids are around to give off that cool mom vibe so the other kids will think your kid has a super cool mom? or are you the other way where you let your kid figure it out on their own and keep your distance?
I have a friend who is very anti-social (I don't even remember how we ever became friends Lol) and her thought process is that its her childs responsibility to make friends and she doesnt let her kid accept any invites to partys cause she doesnt want to socialize with the other moms she justifies this by saying why should she inconvenience herself or make herself uncomfortable when her child should be making friends in school. I understand sometimes it is hard for her because she really isnt the social type but this makes it very hard for her child to make friends when all the kids attend a party and then they come back to school talking about their shared experience and she wasnt a part of it she must feel really left out. I know their are alot of sacrifices and compromises we make when we become parents and I think this is one of them she should compromise her need to not feel uncomfortable for a couple hours once in a while to allow her child to share and interact with other children.
I try to stop myself when I feel like im sounding judgemental cause i hate judgemental people that try to dictate how other people should parent but I know her daughter and her daughter feels like an outcast since she never goes to any event outside of daily school and never has kids over to play.