I just joined this group and my primary reason is to ask about kids birthday parties. I know some of the schools in my area have implemented a new rule stating that if you send birthday party invitations to school that you have to invite every child of your childs gender to the party. (i.e. my daughters birthday is next month so if I send invitations to school I'd have to invite all the girls in her class.) Our school has not yet implemented this rule but I don't think it's fair to force kids to invite others they don't like.
On this same note my daughter has been asking if she can invite a few friends from other classes who were in her class last year and she still plays with at recess and such. It's no problem getting the invitation to the other little girls but does this open a new can of worms of hurting feelings of kids in another class too?
Finally my kids are 18 months apart, so they are only 1 year apart in school. One of my older daughters friends has a younger sister in my youngest daughters class. In the fall we invited both sisters to my younger daughters party and everyone had a blast and it was nice that my older daughter got to have a friend there as well. Well now she is inviting both sisters to her party again which I think is a super sweet thing to do and glad she asked to do it on her own, but I actually had another parent complain to me at my younger daughters birthday that she could have brought her other daughter as well because it's not fair that one family got to have 2 kids at the party and she didn't. I think this was really rude of the other mom as neither of my kids, nor myself, know her other daughter and I kept the fall party at a minimal number of kids (We went to a ranch and did horseback riding so I kept it small so all the kids got a good amount of time on the ponies) but I really don't want to be approached by another parent about not inviting their entire family to my kids birthday party. Is it unreasonable to exclude siblings if neither of your kids know any of the other siblings?
Sorry this was so long, I guess I am just not as well versed in kid party ettiquette as I thought I was. OH And in case anyone was wondering my eldest daughter is turning 7 next month and has asked to go bowling. I have found a reasonably priced bowling alley around the corner from us. We do not have a tonne of money and I try and look for alternatives to indoor play places for the kids birthday parties. Until last year I always did the parties at home but my house is not that big and it is just too stressful filling it with too many kids for a party.