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6 Things Not to Say to a Mom With 'Lots' of Kids

Posted by Kristen Chase

6 annoying things people say to big familiesI wish I could say I was surprised at the stupid things people say to parents, but I'm not. Since having my first child almost 9 years ago, I've learned that parenting is something that everyone, even people who don't have kids, have an opinion about.

Whatever happened to "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all"?

The comments I thought were bad when I had one kid are about 400 times worse now that I have four kids. But today, instead of smiling and laughing like I usually do since I usually have my kids with me when I hear this crap, I'm going to share the craziest things people have said to me and what I'd love to tell them. Or where to shove it.

  1. You do know where babies come from, right? You know, it's funny you mention that because I was just asking myself the other day "Where do babies come from?" and then my vagina piped up and reminded me of the combined 30 hours of labor and all those stitches.
  2. Wow, you really have your hands full! Are you kidding? This is a spa vacation. See, I actually have about 20 more children at home but I keep them all locked in a closet and rotate out the good ones.
  3. You must have a lot of sex. Well, don't tell anyone, but I actually bought these kids on the black market. But yes, I have sex. A lot. Probably a lot more than you do, especially if you say stupid crap like that all the time. 
  4. You are my hero. Oh gosh, thank you. My vagina is blushing.
  5. I'm so glad I stopped at two kids. If you think it's okay to say something like that in public to a mom, in front of her children, I'm really glad you stopped too.
  6. You must like torture. Wait a second. This is so bizarre. Have you been looking into my bedroom?

Moms of 3 or more kids, what comments drive you crazy?

by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 9:51 AM
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Precious333
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 7:08 PM
So sad :(


Quoting MomTiara19:

I stopped at two.


Yet when I thought about having a third I was surprised at some of the negative reactions like.Isnt two enough,and dont expect another baby shower,and cant you put a cork in it..


It was all in a joking manner from some friends and family but I was a little disheartnened by some people rude remarks.


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Precious333
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 7:49 PM
:( i hate that! People were saying that withvmy sister and i because we were having them back to back. Its not a competition!!!


Quoting SahmTam:

 LOL I've gotten some of those comments. I have 3 kids. My sister has 5 kids, so I also get the "so, you need to get busy to keep up with your sister" comments. Uh, yeah, I'd get right on that-- if I had a uterus-- which I no longer do! LOL I go back and forth between just giving some "generic" answer to brush them off or saying what I just wrote and figuring they deserve the bluntness. ;-)


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clippingmom
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 7:51 PM

I have 5 and you should see the looks on peoples faces when I tell them I have 5.

k1ara
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:29 AM



Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:

I got all of those comments and I only have 2 children but I had them back to back. (12 months apart)


I'm right there with you.  I had my kids back to back as well.. but they're only 10 3/4 months apart!  The comments dont really bother me.. the lack of help, especially when trying to maneuver the double stroller, was what bothered me the most when my kids were little.  I would get a lot of "oh, how cute" or "are they twins?".. and they'd look past the fact I'm trying to squeeze this side-by-side stroller through a small doorway while trying to hold the door open at the same time!  My kids are now my helpers when it comes to my new little one.  No more hoping some kind stranger will help out when I'm showing signs of need.

KeepOnWalking
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:31 AM
Are you done or plan on having more? Well, what business is it to you? If and when I decide to have more than so-be-it! That's between my husband and I.
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alexsmomaubrys2
by Silver Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:48 AM


Quoting k1ara:



Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:

I got all of those comments and I only have 2 children but I had them back to back. (12 months apart)


I'm right there with you.  I had my kids back to back as well.. but they're only 10 3/4 months apart!  The comments dont really bother me.. the lack of help, especially when trying to maneuver the double stroller, was what bothered me the most when my kids were little.  I would get a lot of "oh, how cute" or "are they twins?".. and they'd look past the fact I'm trying to squeeze this side-by-side stroller through a small doorway while trying to hold the door open at the same time!  My kids are now my helpers when it comes to my new little one.  No more hoping some kind stranger will help out when I'm showing signs of need.

I hated double strollers. Ugg.

KristenFowles
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 10:50 AM

 Hahaha -

I've heard a few of those.. and I only have 3.

story0702
by Bronze Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 3:41 PM
I have 4 . All 18 months apart . I have heard all of these several times . I have also thought several of the responses.
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kameka
by on Feb. 20, 2013 at 3:46 PM
I don't like the "oh were you trying for a boy" when they find out I have 3 girls. One day I'm going to come back with "nope, just an orgasm". Sigh.
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M4LG5
by Gold Member on Feb. 20, 2013 at 3:48 PM
1 mom liked this


Quoting kameka:

I don't like the "oh were you trying for a boy" when they find out I have 3 girls. One day I'm going to come back with "nope, just an orgasm". Sigh.

ahhh...that's a good answer. 

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