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Are teachers allowed to do this.....(edited, I spoke with her RTI and homeroom teacher)

Posted by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 8:07 AM
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I have three kids, all 7 in the first grade at our elementary school. They share two teachers. My daughter and my step daughter were both asked a question by one of the teachers. She asked "Did your mommy have a baby and sell it?" Im not sure where it came from.

I am a birthmom, my son was adopted when the twins were just 2 years old, and we didnt live in this area...we lived 3 hours away from here. My kids know about the adoption and talk fondly about it, never use the word "sell". They call him thier brother and have a great relationship with him. 

What makes me angry is that if she heard it from one of mine she wouldnt need to ask them about it.... If she heard it from somewhere else Where?, I have no friends here and the kids prefer to be around thier church friends. I don't know how to handle this. Asking my kids was wrong, IMO. Asking if i SOLD him was worse. 

Am I overreacting??? Should I say something to the teacher??? the principal??? 


I got so many responses thank you ladies. I did confront the teacher. I told her what my girls said and asked her why she brought it up. My daughter in her RTI class brought it up that I had a son and he was adopted, the word "adopted" is what the RTI teacher said she used. So my daughter mentioned adoption and her teacher rephrased it as "sell". She said she didnt see it any other way that adoption was the same as selling and that when she asked my daughter about it my daughter said that no I did not sell my baby. And her teacher then told me that she planned on dropping it. 

I have brought it to the principles attention also. I cant imagine how a first grade teacher can take the liberty to change "adoption" to "sell". This was our final push. We have been considering homeschooling (because of scheduling conflicts) and now I know were going to do it. Some people in this world do not need to be influencing our kids. Sorry for the rant but thanks for reading. 

Mother of twins, stepmom to one, and birthmom to one



by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 8:07 AM
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smushy79
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 8:11 AM
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 I would. It seems like a really inappropriate question to be asking. Not to mention none of the teacher's business.

mjande4
by Platinum Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 8:18 AM

Are you absolutely SURE that this was what was said?  Kids phrase things differently and to tell you the truth that seems like a really ODD question.  Is it possible that your children mentioned it or wrote about it and the teacher was trying to clarify what they were saying by putting in "7 year old" terms?  I wouldn't think the teacher would know ANYTHING about the adoption UNLESS your kids told her/him.  As for "is it allowed", well sure, questions can be asked, but as I said earlier, I would think the initial information came from your kids.  If it bothers you, then speak with the teacher IN PERSON and calmly just clarify the situation.

wakymom
by Ruby Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 8:33 AM
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 I'd calmly ask the teacher for clarification. "Hey, my child came home saying that you asked this. I figured something was misunderstood, so I decided to ask you about it."

 

 

 

 

mjande4
by Platinum Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 8:34 AM
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Well stated!


Quoting wakymom:

 I'd calmly ask the teacher for clarification. "Hey, my child came home saying that you asked this. I figured something was misunderstood, so I decided to ask you about it."

 

 

 

 



lovin.my.boys
by on Feb. 21, 2013 at 8:38 AM

That. Although even if they did ask that I doubt they would tell you they did because that would be highly inappropriate!

Quoting wakymom:

 I'd calmly ask the teacher for clarification. "Hey, my child came home saying that you asked this. I figured something was misunderstood, so I decided to ask you about it."

 

 

 

 


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jen113000
by Jenna on Feb. 21, 2013 at 9:03 AM

I agree. Definitely calmly ask. Hopefully it is a misunderstanding.

Quoting wakymom:

 I'd calmly ask the teacher for clarification. "Hey, my child came home saying that you asked this. I figured something was misunderstood, so I decided to ask you about it."

 

 

 

 


steelcrazy
by Emerald Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 9:21 AM

I agree.  You need to calmly talk to the teacher to find out what really happened.

coolmommy2x
by Gold Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 9:23 AM
This. Don't run off to the principal until you have all of the facts.

Quoting wakymom:

 I'd calmly ask the teacher for clarification. "Hey, my child came home saying that you asked this. I figured something was misunderstood, so I decided to ask you about it."


 


 


 


 

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Traci_Momof2
by Silver Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:04 AM

I agree with wakymom.  Ask the teacher for clarification in a calm, non-confrontational tone.  See what the teacher says and go from there.

frndlyfn
by Gold Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 11:10 AM

I would definitely do as others have said.  Calmly ask the teacher about the conversation.  DD will be 7 next month and i have lost count with things she has understood wrong when at school.

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