"My son has an IEP so the school is supposed whatever I want them to help him."
That's what I was just told by an acquaintance. Her son is full in a full time special education class. He's 10 years old and in fourth grade. I know he has serious behavior problems but I don't really know his specific diagnosis or what his IEP says.
At his last IEP meeting the mother told the school he needed occupational therapy because his handwriting is bad. The teacher's answer to that is that his handwriting is messy, but still legible. Plus, when he wants to write neatly it's much nicer, he just don't put forth his best effort most of the time. The mother says that's BS. She wants an OT to teach him write neatly.
The teacher also told the mother the child needs to work on his reading comprehension skills. He has a nightly assignment to read a story and write a one paragraph summary of what he's read. His mom doesn't think that's fair to him because he can't understand what he's read. So she reads him a bible passage then she writes the summary. She has him copy her summary in his own writing to turn in. The teacher said she's not giving him credit for that because he needs to do his own summary. The mother wants his IEP changed to say he doesn't have to be required to show he understands what he's read because, "Some kids just can't understand when they read."
The mother told me she's going to the school board because, "My son has an IEP so the school is supposed to whatever I want them to help him." She then goes on to say that of course I know this to be true because I am an ESE teacher.
She's off her rocker. Schools do take parent's requests into consideration. But parents don't get to write IEPs or command the school to provide services. The whole idea of saying a child isn't required to learn a VITAL skills just because it's hard... I can't even imagine any educator going along with that.
This was one of those things. She's someone I don't know that well personally. But I do have to see her regularly. So I just kind of did the whole neutral, "Wow, really?" or "Uh-uh" reply as she was talking. It was so uncomfortable because I know she thinks I agree. If I'd spoken up I think she might have freaked out. She was so sure she was right.
So two things:
Have you even been in that position where you don't want to tell someone she's wrong even though you totally disagree?
Do you think schools should be expected to write IEPs based off what the parents want?