Her Teacher is Frustrating Me So Much!!!!!!! (kinda long, sorry)
So heres the deal, we have had nothing but problems with this teacher. My dd is 6 years old, was diagnosed with ADD last year and was put on meds. She was having sever anxiety attacks and melt downs while on the medication as well as became so constipated on the medication that she was peeing her pants several times a day. So we pulled her off. We met with the doctor and the doctor basically told us that medication isn't the correct route for her seeing as the effects she had. She also said it could be that she isn't ADD enough for the medication to work properly and its acting as the medication really is (speed). She has done pretty well, only going down to yellow or orange every once in awhile, but going into some of the higher colors other days (typical 6 year old right?)
If your confused about the color system, here it is, they start on green everyday, as they have good behavior they are moved up to blue, purple, then pink, if they act up, they are moved down to yellow, orange then red.
Monday (this week) she was in the red (a note comes home when they get to red). She had left her notebook at school on accident so I found out over the phone that she was in the red. I got the note the next day (which she was also red on) and it said she was innatentive. I didn't quite understand what that meant so i called the teacher. She told me she didn't look at her the entire time she was teaching (which according to the teacher is 20 - 40 minutes each time she teaches). Then she told me she has to ignore most of her behavior. I told her that thats expecting a little much, especially since that particular day it rained all day and the kids had to stay inside for all recesses and she can't expect my dd to fix her behavior if she's ignoring it and not telling her what she is doing wrong. Then she got into orange on wednesday, and I called the teacher again to ask her if there was anything we could be doing at home. She basically said the only thing we can do is take her to the doctor and put her on medication (not happening). I asked her if there was anything else we can do besides medication and the teacher just said "nope, only medication". What!!!! Then she was in the orange yesterday. I called the teacher again and left her a message (i have been very nice this entire time btw) asking her if we could have a conferense with her and perhaps the counselor as well and see if theres something we can do, i also sent her a note in my dd's binder and sent her an email, and she hasn't responded at all. I'm so frustrated I don't know what to do. (oh and apparently she was in the orange yesterday because she talked in the hall according to the teacher)
My dd never knows what she did to get moved down, she just says shes orange because the teacher says she is. So here she's been getting punished for being in a lower color and she has no freakin clue what she did.
We don't any problems with her at home (no distraction) she is the most attentive kid in her girlscout troop meetings and her specials teachers and duty teachers say they have had no problems with her. I'm not medicating my child when 1) the doctor says its not a good idea and 2) the teacher is the only one with the problem.