My stepson is 4 3/4, he will be five at the beginning of June, and he's in an early child development preschool program for developmentally delayed kids, but he's very very smart. He's mostly behind in communication. We started potty training him when we got him from his mother when he just turned three.. He couldn't talk much at all but he started using the potty, he knows how and can go by himself. He had some weeks where he was fine and stayed dry but others where he'd pee 5 times a day in his underwear. He has just been getting worse and worse to the point I couldn't keep up with the laundry and i was picking him up wet from school and the teachers didnt even know he was peeing; so a month ago I put him back in pull-ups and started over with a sticker chart and rewards ( a gummy bear) for every time he went potty. He stayed dry like 2 days out of the whole month we've been doing this. I told him he can't wear his sky landers underwear until he goes 2 weeks with no accidents. Today he pooped his pants 3 times. Which he hasn't done in a long time. I just don't know what to do anymore. We've tried everything, punishments and reward systems and completely backing off and letting him take charge of it. He has no shame or embarrassment and doesn't understand it either. I don't think his teachers even know he's in pull-ups. He's supposed to be potty trained to go to school. We've even gotten him a potty watch and set it for every hour and he still would have accidents. It got to the point where his potty watch would go off and he would cover it up so it muffled the sound and hid it behind his back so he didn't have to go. He will sit and grab himself and do the potty dance but won't go unless I make him. We took him to a doctor and they said it was probably laziness and do a reward system but that hasn't worked; and they said its not anything to worry about, he said if its still happening in a few years then come back after he's Seven or eight. We ask him why he's doing it and he says I just don't know and I just didn't know and I just tried to go, but all he does is repeats those phrases which make no sense. His daddy picked him up from school and he smelled like poop and he asked him if he pooped his pants and he said no, but then he asked again when they got home and he said no and then I just didn't know. I just don't know what to do with this kid anymore, it's like he only uses the potty when he feels like it.
on Mar. 15, 2013 at 2:10 AM