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Kindergarten to repeat next year or not.... ****update***2

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Hi I'm new to the group.

My son is turning six next month and is currently in kindergarten. The last conference they were suggesting that he just was not where some of the other class is with reading and writing. And that repeating next year would probably be best. He is a very easy, good mannered kid. Never in trouble, plays and listens well. But I think some things just are not clicking with him, we are looking at getting him a tutor for the remainder of the school year as well as the summer if it will help him catch up. I'm just not sure if the teacher is giving up, I asked a friend that is a Kindergarten teacher in a different district and she couldn't believe the conversation came up at this time of year. 

I think it would be upsetting for him to repeat kindergarten, he is excited to be a first grader next year. But I don't want him to not be ready either. Anyone have experience with this? I need some help! 


***update****

Can't believe all of your replies still working through reading them, truly appreciate all of your advice what a great group! 

Side note, he is very good at math and unbelievable at problem solving, he also had two previous years of preschool. We thought we were doing everything we could to get him ready for this year. I think that is part of why this is so hard to grasp. Coming into school he was ahead of most kids as far as what they would like them to know. 

***update 2***

My son is currently in full day kindergarten. I will be setting him up with a tutor for the remainder of the year and over the summer. We still work with him at home but I think professional help is the best for him. He does get assistance at school during the day to work on the reading etc. and we are going to look into the possibility of dyslexia or other possible learning difficulties. This is my little man and I'm going to do everything I can for him and try to make the best decision for his next year of school. 

by on Mar. 22, 2013 at 9:47 PM
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aj23
by Bronze Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:27 AM

I was actually surprised about it.  My sons birthday is in late May and I was told that 6 months before the actual cut off date falls under being young for the grade so they factor in being young as reasons for being behind from about mid March on.

Quoting mjande4:

I actually, even though I didn't touch on it, thought this too. 

 

Quoting aj23:

 


 

mjande4
by Platinum Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:32 AM

As schools have backed up their start dates to early August, it's pushed the other dates back as well.

Quoting aj23:

I was actually surprised about it.  My sons birthday is in late May and I was told that 6 months before the actual cut off date falls under being young for the grade so they factor in being young as reasons for being behind from about mid March on.

Quoting mjande4:

I actually, even though I didn't touch on it, thought this too. 


Quoting aj23:






MommyO2-6631
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:37 AM
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My son had this problem but his kindergarten teacher asked if he could stay for an hour after school once or twice a week to work on his reading.... now he's in first grade reading at a second grade level. Sounds to me like his teacher has failed, not him.
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LoveOfWisdom
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:38 AM
As someone that never understood different subjects in school, I'd have him repeat now if he needs is vs waiting until further along in schooling. If you don't make a big deal about him repeating, he probably won't even realize that he is. :)
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KKmommy3
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:47 AM

Yes, my kids love Starfall. It seems to be a great program.  I have also had good experiences with Jump Start.  I bought a kindergarten level program and they learn a lot of things on there, Reading, phonics, math, and even some other stuff.  The kids just feel like they are playing, but the program keeps track of their growth.  LeapFrog also has some nice games and programs that do the same. I have heard that the ABCmouse is a good one too, but I have never tried it.  Kids learn a lot through play still at that age, make it fun and it will work. 

Quoting ballerina18:

Check out www.starfall.com

What exactly is he behind on? What did his teacher say?


CB3arr
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:56 AM

Okay, well I'm an elementary school teacher.  In our school district, this conversation has to happen by Christmas time so parents have a semester warning/time to think about what they want to do.  I don't know what the rules are in your district, but here, if we don't notify parents by december that we are considering retention, then it can't happen at all.

You are his parent, so you have to make the decision.  The thing about kids- sometimes they will catch up in a year or two and be fine, but sometimes they never catch up because they just aren't ready to be in that grade.  So you could be looking at a lifetime of him always being behind and always needing extra help outside of school.  

I don't like retention in general.  But kids develop at different rates, age is just a number (and your son is on the younger end for Kindergarten), so it can be useful for some kids.   I can also say from experience, kids recover from it better if its done at a younger age.  

You can try the tutor, see how that works.  And I don't think first grade is too old to retain a kid.  So you could pass him on, but then face this same decision next year.  It really depends on "how far behind" he is this year.  Does his current teacher think maybe its a good idea or is she really pushing for it? 

KKmommy3
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:58 AM

I personally think it would be a waste to keep him  in kindergarten again, because they usually don't even start reading until the end of the school year. I would work with him over the summer, try those computer programs, and wait until they test him in first grade, if he is still behind, if you have a good school, they will send him to a reading specialist during school a couple times a week.  My dd tested poorly when she first started first grade, although she was at the high end at the end of kindergarten. they sent her to the reading specialist, and within a month they said she did not need it, and she ended up soaring to the higher level again.  She loves to read now, and gets awards each quarter for exceeding expectations on the Accelerated Reader program.

I know ever situation is different, but I think they will actively help your child more in first grade than in Kindergarten, he will be bored, and may take a turn for the worse instead of better if you keep him in kindergarten.

Just my opinion, and I am far from an expert.


la_bella_vita
by Bella on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:00 AM
I'm not sure what I would do. If you don't hold him back, I would work with him all summer.
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Raeann11
by Bronze Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:01 AM

Not with my children. But as myself yes. When we moved from a small town to a big town. There teacher was much more then from my small town. My parents talked to me about it. I was in second grade at the time. They explained what the teachers said and how I felt about it. I was stuggling myself and also felt I wanted to. I was so glad I did. Even there 2nd grade was hard for me. Luckly at that time they got some funding to have a  couple of special Ed teachers to help me out that year. It it had not been for them I would have struggled more.

This is something you and your SO/Hubby need to have some long talks about and also talk to you son about it.

KRIZZ25
by Bronze Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:13 AM
MY SON DID K TWICE.NOT NO BIG DEAL.. HE WILL BE FINE..
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