The only one of those that I'm making is that I "rave too much"...I was never told that I was smart,or special,or had any kind of praise so I may over do it with my daughter.
Quoting PinkParadox:I'm sure I'm making mistakes, but not those
I think that you're going to lots of replies here from moms who say they don't do these things, but really do.
I don't think many parents realize the how issues described in the article impact their kids.
I can admit I guilty of number 3. It's instinctual to rave over every little thing. I had some training this summer that helped me really see how over praising and rewarding my students is detrimental. I realize the same is true of my own kids.
This is something I think is really important for parents to understand.
Further, Dr. Robert Cloninger, at Washington University in St. Louis has done brain research on the prefrontal cortex, which monitors the reward center of the brain. He says the brain has to learn that frustrating spells can be worked through. The reward center of our brains learns to say: Don’t give up. Don’t stop trying. “A person who grows up getting too frequent rewards,” Cloninger says, “will not have persistence, because they’ll quit when the rewards disappear.”
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