My 5 Year old is getting shunned by her classmates
My daughter is not a perfect child. Many of you can see only the good in your children. I see the positive and negative in my CJ. Here is the thing. My daughter is one of sweetest and friendliest girls I have ever known. She says hello to everyone. She smiles, giggles and full of heart. She has some developmental delays with her speech and language. She is working hard to overcome these challenges and she has a very positive attitude. Today I again faced the terrible realtiy that my child is the target of shunning. CJ walked up to a girl in her clas class and greated her with a happy hello and the girl replied "Get away from me, I am not your friend." This is not the first time my child has been treated like this at this school. There have been other girls who refused to talk to her and refused to even let her look at their picture. I am very concerned because today my lil gal began to cry and told me "Mommy I have no friends :(" Can you imagine how that feels for her? I told my daughter "Hunny then she is not worthy of being your friend anyway if she treats people this way." Luckly one of the other girls in line overheard and told CJ " I am your friend". This saved a huge deluge of tears because she turned and smiled at began to feel less sad. I have no idea what to do. I have talked to one of the children telling her that she was being mean for no reason and that is hurtful. However, I do not think I am doing enough. Frankly, I was tormented as a child. It forced me to want to kill myself several times and I ended up dropping out of high school. Luckly I had a wonderful prinicpal that encouraged me to complete my education. Some of you may not be aware that shunning is a form of bullying. It is hurtful and it causes a child's morale to suffer to the extremes of severe depression and low self confidence. I think I probably will have a conversation with the school psychologist. It is too early in her life to be told without words she is "worthless". I doubt talking to the mothers will help as they would probably get quickly defensive and put the blame back on my child. In essence, I wasted my time and I most likely will be in a adversarial relationship with the mothers. I just want her to go to school, have a good day, play with some friends, and then come home happy. Is that too much to ask for?