I'm not sure where to post this but I need help.
Today with DD (6ys old) was horrible. She is in kindergarten, usually a very good student, good girl at home but has a bit of an attitude. She has been grounded this week for getting bad marks at school for two days in a row and then refusing to do her chores last week. That's where the attitude comes in. This week we started a chore chart to help keep track of her jobs. She was doing much better Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday this week but today she lost her mind when it came to completing the very last chore on her list.
It was a normal afternoon, we read books, did homework, were having fun.. and then I sent her upstairs to pick up her room. I told her she had 20 minutes while I folded laudry and I kept giving her time updates through out (15 min, 10 min). When I went up to check her room she hadn't done a thing I asked her to. I told her that her punishment (since this is a recourring problem) would be that she lost TV for the afternoon and was in time out until dinner (30 or so minutes) She could write in her journal about how she felt. I then went downstairs to make dinner.
At that point, all hell broke loose. She started yelling and screaming. I went upstairs to calm her down and she started hitting, kicking and scratching at me. She challenged everything I said, initiated physical violence and ended up trying to run away. She has never acted like that to me before. It's like she wanted to see how far she could take it and then just blew up. Things got really bad, really fast.
I don't believe in getting physical with my kids as discipline, but DH does. He was sleeping and was woken up by the sound of us fighting. He was really angry and took all the toys out of her room. He also told her that if she wanted to run away she was welcome to. He then dragged her downstairs and put her out the front door.
She was devistated that he did that but it stopped her tantrum.
I don't know what to do. I've tried to talk to her, reason with her, explain behavior to her but it seems like if DH isn't around then she acts like she doesn't have to listen to me. It's the room issue that we have trouble with most. Everything else she is a great helper. She just won't do what I ask when it involves me not standing over her and watching her do it. For Dh, she does what he says in a heartbeat but he spanks her and yells. He scares me sometimes so I know that he is scaring her. I'm not like that.
Sorry it's so long ladies, I just don't know what to do. She's my baby girl but she's starting to act like I did when I was a teenager. This is to much, to fast. How do I stop it?