Girl w/ special needs is picking on DS..:/*updated
The other day I asked him if he's still friends w/ her cuz he hadn't talked about her in a while. He said he doesn't want to be friends w/her anymore because she gets out of her seat@ lunch to poke him in the back & it makes him jump & everyone laughs@ him & it embarrasses him to the point of making him cry:( whenever ds stood up while eating lunch 2 wks ago, he was sent to the principal's office to eat lunch for 3 days..(he was warned 3xs before punishment) He is confused why he got in trouble for being out of his seat, but the girl doesn't even get warned.
This has now been an on going thing w/ her touching him to startle him, so this is what I said to do:
1. Tell the girl sternly that you don't like to be scared & to stop.
2. Tell the lunch aide that the girl won't leave you alone.
3. I'll go into the school to talk to someone about her.
We are now on #3 & I feel bad that I'm going into the school to complain about a girl w/special needs, but I don't want ds to be picked on & be miserable@ lunch.
I don't even know who to talk to about this..I'm going to start out@ the secretary & see where she directs me. Am I going about this the right way? Am I wrong to think that she should be disciplined the same way my son was? Thx for the opinions.
Thx for all the comments. I did have a talk w/ ds's teacher & she named the girl before I even said who she was. Apparently she has an aide, but I don't understand how all this could be happening when there is an aide watching them? Oh well, the girl hasn't teased my son since & he's been having good days:) my son's teacher also had a talk w/ him to let him know that he can always come to her when someone is picking on him. I think that made him feel good because he hasn't really gotten close to her w/him being the "new kid"