It has always been a fight to get dd to do her classwork. Kindergarden I noticed she was always at Nana's table. It was a separate table that the kids that needed extra help went to and there was a retiree to help them. DD was the only one who was there almost everyday. I took her to the dr to rule out adhd or something else. I was told that most kids that were brought in at dd age 6yrs was found to have nothing wrong with the child but with the parenting in the house. This was said after 2 visits.
First grade: The teacher was adhd happy and all the fidgety kids were adhd and needed meds. She told me and several parents that she believed our kids were adhd and we should seek medical help. I just think she wanted a room of robot children. I had dd tested for placement and was told while she was slightly behind, she wasnt behind enough for help. While my dd was being taken out of class, her teacher was still giving her the classwork to take home. We were taking 20+ sheets of classwork home everyday. I found out after a week of this that because dd was being removed from class for testing, she should be exempt from what the class does while dd is out. I had to talk to the principal to get this to stop.
Second grade: New school. first week the teacher calls us and tells us that dd told her she had been hiding her homework under a chair on the porch before she came in. She had bee telling us she did it all in class. She was grounded all weekend. Nothing changed.The teacher and I decide to remove everything fun from her. Never worked. My dd was sitting in her seat all day. No PE, art, computers, music, or recess. At home we took everything out of her room by Christmas. Nothing but her bed and dresser. She was sooo bad I held her back. She simply wasnt ready for 3rd grade.
Second grade again. Still no change. All year I have gotten notes fom her teacher saying dd is very smart and just needs to focus. Tonite I found her folder that she told me she forgot at school, under her dresser with homework in it.and I cant have her retested for placement til next year.
I have tried making her write a letter saying sory to the teacher for lying. Writing sentences, running around the yard(small yard and never many laps2-3 maybe)
I cant hold her back again. It didnt affect her a bit. Nothing seems to have an effect. Im out of ideas and at my wits end. My dd has never brought home a good grade in her life. Not counting Pe, art, music, ect