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I'm so pissed at the school!!! ETA and Update

Posted by on May. 23, 2013 at 7:30 PM
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So today was my kids version of field day at the school. They had loads of fun.

My 5 year old (Z) comes home today and goes right upstairs (3pm). I didn't think anyhing of it at first because she had to change out of her school uniform. I assumed that's what she'd gone upstairs to do. Well, around 4pm I sent one of my older daughters up to see what she was doing. She was sleeping. I decided to let her because she had a busy day. Fast forward another hour, I sent my daughter to go wake her up. She couldn't get her up so I turned off the stove (I was cooking dinner) and went upstairs myself. I woke her up and she told me shes not feling well. I helped her get out of bed and she started throwing up. Without going through all of her symptoms, I believe she has heat exhaustion. She was outside in 90 degree weather running around for 2 hours (in direct sun) and was only given 1 small dixie cup of water. According to my 7 year old, Z was so tired on the way home from school she couldn't carry her own backpack (I was told this after finding out Z is sick). So, she's got a fever of just under 102, won't eat even though I made her favorite for dinner (chicken, sweet potatoes, garlic and pepper greenbeans, and bread sticks) which she never passes up. I'm so angry that I wish the school were open so I could go up there. I don't know if I should take Z to the ER or wait it out and see what happens.

What should I do?

ETA: I say it was their version of field day because the school doesn't actually have a field day. It was a "water party". The school rented water slides and other water activities for the kids.The kids were to bring bathing suits with shorts and a t-shirt over it, a towel, a school uniform, sunscreen, and a hat. It was specified that water would be provided at the party and that we were not allowed to send in water bottles due to the risk of the children mixing up bottles and "swapping germs".

I don't know that they weren't allowed to have more than one cup but that is all that was offered to Z and as a 5 year old she can't be expected to remember to ask herself. My 7 year old was not offered any water but told her teacher she was thirsty and went to the water fountain for a drink.

I sent in everything that was asked for and even slathered them up in sun screen before they left for school (as I always do bc we live in FL).

UPDATE:I called the school first thing this morning and spoke to Z's teacher first. I told her about Z's symptoms and that I had called the on call pediatrician last night and he agreed with me that it sounded like it could be heat exhaustion. I asked her if Z's "companion" (as required by her IEP) was with her. I also asked about how they were determining when and how often the children got water or were made to take a break. She told me that she wasn't outside with the children because she had students that didn't earn the water party so she had to stay inside with them. She also told me that she knows the person who is usually Z's companion was out yesterday and she honestly doesn't know who they replaced him with. She said that she knows that there were water fountains outside and she saw some coolers too but doesn't know if they had water in them or if they were for the ice for snow cones. Z's teacher also told me that I am the 3rd parent to call between yesterday and today with concerns about their child not getting enough water. Apparently other children came home with dehydration. She told me that she is reporting the complaints to the Principal and suggested I do the same (I was going to regardless).

So after I got off the phone, I asked Z who her companion was yesterday because I wanted to file a complaint against that person as well. She told me that she doesn't think she had one because there was no adult with her while she was outside, just adults watching. I'm not sure if maybe her companion was watching from the sidelines or if they didn't assign her one when they realized hers was out for the day. I will be getting to the bottom of that one though because there is no excuse for the school to not follow the IEP. I'm technically on bed rest right now but if they had called me, I would have gone up there to make sure Z was safe. I've told them before I have no problem being Z's companion if necessary. 

So anywho, I called the principal and left a voicemail. I'm waiting for a call back and will update again when I get one.r
by on May. 23, 2013 at 7:30 PM
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by on May. 23, 2013 at 7:35 PM
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Take Z to ER or call her dr right now. The school can wait you daughter health is important.

by Platinum Member on May. 23, 2013 at 7:36 PM
I would try and push fluids and a cool bath and see how she responds before rushing to urgent care/ER.

If you don't see improvement after, you may want to get her in for fluids.
by on May. 23, 2013 at 7:37 PM

I agree with janita... get her checked out before going after the school. 

by on May. 23, 2013 at 7:39 PM

I hope this helps

Fever Fears: A Guide for Treating Fever in Children

You can't take chances when your child has a fever, but you shouldn't panic either. We'll explain what to look for so you can stay calm -- and help her feel better fast.
mother checking child's temperature

We've all been there: You're awakened in the middle of the night by the pained cries of your young child, and you notice that her forehead is hot to the touch. You take her temperature, and the reading -- 102?F -- sends your heart racing. Your first instinct is to speed-dial the doctor. But in most cases here's what experts say you should do instead: Take a deep breath and relax.

Of course, that's easier said than done. Many parents have "fever phobia" -- a tendency to freak out when their child's body temperature spikes. And understandably, you're even more likely to push the panic button this winter because of worries about H1N1 influenza. As many as 30 percent of pediatric acute-care visits are related to fever, according to a study published earlier this year in Pediatrics in Review. "A lot of parents think a fever is really dangerous," says Robert W. Steele, M.D., a pediatrician at St. John's Children's Hospital, in Springfield, Missouri. "But the vast majority of the time it's nothing serious."

In a way, a fever is a good thing: It means your child's immune system is doing its job by fighting an underlying cold or another infection. The brain commands the body's temperature to rise, which in turn directs the white blood cells to attack and destroy invading viruses and bacteria. Amazingly, healthy kids of all ages usually can tolerate a fever of up to 106?F with no complications. Chances are your child's temperature will never approach that scary number, but be prepared: It's almost inevitable that sometime during his first three years his temperature will climb into the triple digits.

First Response

As a parent, what you should do about a fever depends largely on your child's age and the reading. If she's less than 3 months old, anything above 100.4?F warrants a quick call to the doctor. Because an infant's immune system isn't fully developed, she's vulnerable to potentially life-threatening infections like bacterial meningitis and pneumonia, and an elevated body temperature is often the only symptom

Between 3 and 6 months, your child needs to be examined by his pediatrician once his fever hits 101?F, says Steven Shelov, M.D., a Parents advisor and the editor-in-chief of American Academy of Pediatrics' Caring for Your Baby and Young Child.

Once your child is older than 6 months, you can safely wait to contact your doctor until her temperature rises to 103?F, with this important exception: Phone right away if her fever hits 102?F or above and she has two or more of these symptoms: a cough, a sore throat, a runny or stuffy nose, body aches, headaches, chills, fatigue, and diarrhea. These classic H1N1 flu symptoms (which are strikingly similar to those for seasonal influenza) tend to occur within 24 hours of the onset of a fever, and your pediatrician might recommend that she take the antiviral drug Tamiflu to reduce the severity and duration of her symptoms.

The Big Picture

Since fever is a signal from the body that something is wrong, pay close attention to your child's other symptoms. If he has a runny nose and a low-grade fever (under 101?F), it usually means he's got a common cold, while vomiting and diarrhea probably point to a stomach virus. In both cases, the fever tends to come on gradually and to disappear within a few days. But seasonal and H1N1 flu symptoms often strike very suddenly. "Flu hits your child like a ton of bricks," says Jason Homme, M.D., assistant professor of pediatrics at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota. "One day he's fine, and then boom, the next he can't get out of bed." For kids considered to be at higher risk (those under age 5 or with certain chronic medical conditions, such as asthma or diabetes), treatment may be needed, so your doctor might have you in for a flu test. If your child is otherwise healthy the physician may simply assume (based on your description) that he has the flu, in which case he'll need to stay home until he's fever-free for 24 hours without using a fever reducer.

Red Flags

Let your doctor know right away if your child complains of a sore throat, an earache, or pain while peeing, since these ailments could signal strep throat, an ear infection, or a urinary tract infection, all of which may need to be treated with antibiotics. You should also check in with the office if your child shows symptoms of dehydration, such as if she urinates less than usual, doesn't produce any tears when she cries, or seems less alert than usual.

Although rare, certain symptoms (which are often accompanied by fever) require immediate medical attention. Head straight for the E.R. if your child is extremely short of breath, cries inconsolably, has difficulty waking, or develops a rash that doesn?t blanch when you touch it or has bruisy-looking purple spots (both could indicate meningococcemia, a potentially fatal infection of the bloodstream). Call 911 if her tongue, lips, or nails are blue (a sign that she may not be getting enough oxygen) or she has a stiff neck (a possible indicator of meningitis) or severe abdominal pain (which could mean appendicitis). Also call your pediatrician if your child is under 2 and her fever lasts more than 24 hours (for older kids, you can wait three days before calling unless she has symptoms suggestive of seasonal flu or H1N1). Ask for an appointment if your child's fever disappears and then returns a few days later, since she may have developed a secondary infection.

Cooling Off

While it's a natural instinct to treat your child's fever so he feels better, keep in mind that medication will merely mask it, not cure it. "Once a fever reducer wears off, your child's temperature may soar back up because the underlying cause is still there," says Laura Jana, M.D., a pediatrician and coauthor of American Academy of Pediatrics' Heading Home With Your Newborn.

As a general rule, you should focus on the way your child looks, feels, and acts rather than on what the thermometer says. "If you have to chase him around to give him medicine, he probably doesn't need it," says Dr. Jana. "Letting your child's fever run its course may actually help his body fight the underlying infection."

But if bringing down your little one's temperature makes him feel less crabby, it's fine to do so. For kids under 6 months, infant acetaminophen (such as Tylenol) is the only recommended fever reducer. Older babies and kids can also take children's ibuprofen (such as Motrin or Advil), which is more effective at fighting fever but also somewhat more likely to cause stomach irritation. Never give aspirin to a child under 16 -- it can cause Reye's syndrome, a potentially fatal liver condition. If your child's fever is persistent, see if your doctor recommends treating him with alternating doses of acetaminophen and ibuprofen (spacing the two meds by at least two hours). But if you go that route, be sure to record the precise doses and times to prevent the risk of an overdose.

However, medication isn't the only Rx for a fever. A lukewarm bath or washcloth may temporarily cool your child off. Stay away from cold water and ice baths, though. "They'll make your child shiver, which can raise his temperature even higher afterward," Dr. Steele says. Also avoid alcohol rubs, a dangerous old-school remedy that can cause intoxication, seizures, or even coma. Giving your child lots of fluids -- including ice pops or Jell-O -- will help his body battle the illness and keep him hydrated. If he's vomiting or has diarrhea, give him an oral-rehydration-therapy drink to help replace electrolytes and fluids. Keep your child in lightweight, breathable clothing; dressing him in layers is best because he may be sweaty one minute and shivering the next. And don't forget the most helpful home remedy of all: lots of TLC.

How Thermometers Measure Up

There's no single right way to take your child's temperature -- but some methods are more precise than others.


Con: Older kids don't like it

Pro: It's the best choice for kids up to age 3 or whenever an exact reading is critical.

Accuracy: The highest

Tip: Have your child lie across your lap or on his back with his legs up.


Con: The reading can be thrown off if your child doesn't keep the thermometer under her tongue until it beeps.

Pro: Most kids 4 and older can use them correctly, and there's no need to remove their clothing.

Accuracy: Good

Tip: If she's just had a hot or cold drink, wait 15 minutes.


Con: If the room is chilly, you may get a false low reading.

Pro: It's very easy to use.

Accuracy: Adequate

Tip: Many doctors recommend adding 1?F to the reading for greater accuracy.


Con: Doctors say the tip is difficult to insert properly, especially for kids under 1

Pro: It's fast and convenient.

Accuracy: Varies

Tip: For a more precise result, pull your child's ear slightly up and back before inserting.


Con: It's the most costly type of thermometer.

Pro: Temporal artery models record the temperature in seconds and are comfortable for kids.

Accuracy: Varies

Tip: It must be slid midway between the eyebrows and upper hairline for an accurate reading.

When to Phone the Doctor

The American Academy of Pediatrics offers these fever guidelines for calling the office:

0 to 2 months: 100.4?F

3 to 6 months: 101?F

6+ months: 103?F

Your Burning Questions

Will my child have a febrile seizure?

He could. A febrile seizure is caused by a quick spike in temperature that disrupts the brain's normal electrical activity. Your child is prone if febrile seizures run in your family or if he's had one within the past year. Though the typical symptoms -- rolling of the eyes, twitching, and even vomiting -- are disturbing to watch, febrile seizures rarely harm a child and don't predispose him to epilepsy. If he has one, keep him on the floor and away from sharp objects, and turn his head sideways so that his tongue doesn't obstruct his breathing. Call 911 if it lasts longer than five minutes.

Can a high fever cause my child to have hallucinations?

Though adults are more likely to hallucinate from an elevated body temperature than kids are, it's possible your feverish child could start seeing things that aren't really there (such as a doll floating across her room or bugs crawling on her). High fevers -- 102?F or above -- are more likely to cause hallucinations. While they may be frightening for your child, they're harmless.

If my child's fever rises above 106?F, can it cause brain damage?

Yes, a fever that high can cause permanent injury, but it's almost never the result of illness alone. It's most likely to occur if your child has heatstroke (such as from being left in a hot car during the summer).

Originally published in the December 2009 issue of Parents magazine.

All content on this Web site, including medical opinion and any other health-related information, is for informational purposes only and should not be considered to be a specific diagnosis or treatment plan for any individual situation. Use of this site and the information contained herein does not create a doctor-patient relationship. Always seek the direct advice of your own doctor in connection with any questions or issues you may have regarding your own health or the health of others.

by Gwen on May. 23, 2013 at 7:41 PM
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Can you get her to drink anything?  Do you have a nurseline you can call & ask?

I would definitely talk to the school once the medical side is taken care of (and they open again)!

by Laura on May. 23, 2013 at 8:02 PM

I'm sorry that happened, but, I will def. be sending water with my kids on field day now. I think I did last year. I know I slathered sunscreen. Last years was a water day. Lol I don't think this years is.

by Mikki on May. 23, 2013 at 8:54 PM


Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

I would try and push fluids and a cool bath and see how she responds before rushing to urgent care/ER.

If you don't see improvement after, you may want to get her in for fluids.

family in the van   Mom of four

by on May. 23, 2013 at 9:43 PM

All the hospital will do is push fluids if anything.  I have gotten heat exhaustion too many times to count since i was dumb and did not drink enough during summer activities.

by Bronze Member on May. 23, 2013 at 11:24 PM

Quoting GwenMB:

Can you get her to drink anything?  Do you have a nurseline you can call & ask?

I would definitely talk to the school once the medical side is taken care of (and they open again)!

by Silver Member on May. 23, 2013 at 11:51 PM
Try and push fluids. Cool washcloth on her skin. Cool mist humidifier if you have one. And make sure if shes drinking water to get something with electrolytes in her too so she doesnt swing to the other end. Pedialyte popsicles are a good choice. Unless shes really underweight i wouldnt worry so much about food. Just fluids. If she wants something by all means eat, but i know when my hubby comes in from a long hot day out on the drop zone he rarely wants to eat until he has cooled off some.
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