DD's seat partner on the bus has been takng things out of her bag, including snacks & food out of her lunch bag. She's been taking things, & pretending to throw 'em out the window. Yesterday, she even somehow took dd's socks & shoes off. Dd says that when she tries to get her things back. seat partner hits her & pushes her away. Seat partner has also pulled her hair. The kids are in assigned seats, so I told dd to ask driver if she can sit in a different seat. This is not the first time this has happened. A different seat partner did similar things to her two years ago in 1st grade. Anyway, both times, I emailed the principals & asked them to intervene. They contacted the transportation dept. I know the 1st principal talked to the partner, & dd switched seats. I just emailed the 2d principal about this year this eve, but he said he wanted to talk to this year's seat partner-I imagine dd will switch seats again. I don't have time in the am's to drive the kids to school or pick 'em up b/c of my work schedule, but I also don't want my kids to keep going through this. I also don't wanna come across as a whiney, overreacting/overprotecting mom by constantly complaining to the principals about this. Am I overreacting? Any suggestions?
ETA: Thank you everyone for your input. I do appreciate it. I do totally agree w/ everyone that says she needs to learn to speak up for herself. We had scheduled school closing today & Mon for Labor Day, so we spent this morning role playing, trying to encourage her to be more assertive. We told her to speak up loud & clear, "No, don't do that!" and to show confidence. I even used the example of how we talk to her or her brother when we are correcting their behavior. We will continue to work with her. She still has a way to go. . . I hope Tue morning, she will have a different seat, but if not, I will follow up w/ the driver herself. We are a driver training route, so we usually have an extra adult on the bus. I have again repeated to her that she needs to discuss any further issues w/ either that adult or the driver. Hopefully, we can keep this from happening again. And, thanks those that said to talk to the driver & transportation dept first. Hopefully, I won't have to say, I'll try that next time. . .
UPDATE AGAIN: I am so angry, I'm shaking. Dd & are both in tears. Yesterday was the 1st day back since writing this post. I noticed dd was still in the same seat, but I thiougt I'd give it time to see if principal had talked to transportation dept. Apparently, seat partner wasn't on the bus at all. Anyway, when dd was getting off the bus today, seat partner pushed dd as she was walking down the aisle to get off the bus. Dd started crying, so the driver aid/trainer/trainee/ whatever asked what happened. Dd was finally fed up enough, she told what happened. I saw extra adult go to seat partner to talk to her. Don't know what was said. I wish she'd been switched when I'd said something last week, & I am sorry dd had to be made to cry, but I'm proud of dd for speaking up. Dd finally told me the reason she didn't, was 'cause partner said if she told, partner would punch her. I understand dd's fear. I just get more & more angry the more I hear. Thank you all for your advice & input. . .