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My son's grandparents (mom + stepdad) have been very involved in his life since he was a baby, especially when he was in his younger stages and I was still going out alot and hanging out with my friends and not being as responsible as I should have been, however I also feel that by them being so involved they almost enabled this behavior as they wanted a child of their own and couldn't have one.
Anyway, it has been over 3 years since I made a change in my life and have given up that lifestyle. My son's father and have been together since then and I feel like his grandparents are constantly overstepping their boundaries. It is a battle all the time. They help pay for his private school tuition (their idea) and they watch him every week for us while we work (they insist, although other arrangments can be made). They come along to cetain events of his and then his grandmother makes judgements (such as Boy Scouts, says certain dads look like weirdos, etc.she has a good feeling about people etc, however, my ex-stepdad whom she married for 12 years was inapproriate towards me so when she says stuff like that it really bugs me). She gets all her information from reading the news on the internet and all her negative projections. Their apprach towards parenting is alot different then mine and when I feel like he is acting up and needs to know that is unacceptable they always say something is bugging him and basically baby him. I buy him shoes, she goes out and buys him different ones convincing him the ones I bought are not as good for him. She tells me his hair is in his face and constantly bugs me when I am going to cut it, she tells me what sports he can and can't play, everyday she tells me I am over doing it with his activities etc, etc, etc...I feel like he goes to her house and she instigates and interrigates him...and this is the least of it, it is just constant meddling and her opinions, etc. about things i have to hear...I just found out she told him Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny aren't real knowing how hard I go out of my way every year to make those traditions seem real...I asked her about it and she said he is going to grow up and wonder why we all lied to him, I don't know anyone who grew up thinking that when they found out the truth..I grew up being told they were not real, and wish I had the chance to beleive in them
yesterday my mom picked him up from school and I went to get him from her house to take him to baseball practice, he had a huge meltdown, refused to go to practice and refused to come home, it took them an hour and a half of talking to him for him to get in the car and come home which he was fine when he got home, I asked him why he did that and he thought it was funny....he was extremely tired from his day at school as is only 6 and will sometimes have melt downs, this was one of them...if it was just solely up to me I would have just put him the car and drove off and let him scream and cry...he would have been find by the time we got home, but with them there I can't do what I feel is best for teaching him how to behave accordingly.
At this point I don't know what to do, I have had talks with her multiple times, time after time and time again...and it is always a battle, yes they help us out alot which I appreciate, but I feel it does not give them the right to cross their boundaries like they do and if needed I would find other means of help...