My kids have behavior charts in school. Both are different but are along the same lines, the color you go home with at the end of the day is what your behavior is (for instance youngest DD has green=great day, yellow=lost 5 min. recess, okay day, red, black so on). Last year in pre-k my youngest got in trouble ALL the time for back talking, not listening, refusing to clean up, etc. She would get punished at home with no t.v. no playing whatever worked. This year she has done perfectly. She had 3 straight weeks of all green and then one day she came home with a yellow and a note saying "was talking during class". I didn't punish her because all kids make that mistake, god knows DH and I did. She was also uspet enough that she would get in trouble. I told her that she wasn't grounded but she just needs to remember to make a better choice next time and always try hard to listen to the teacher and not talk while she is talking. She has yet to get anything but green since. Same with my oldest who went through pre-k and kindergarten without anything except a perfect score every day. She came home last week with a yellow because she shouted "Who wants a pencil? Get your free pencil here?" during the time they were supposed to be writing. She gets a little silly at times when she's excited and they were doing a fun activity. The teacher didn't punsih her at school, just wrote a note that said "was talking during class". She was told the same thing and has yet to have a problem.
DH thinks that getting a yellow is just the most unacceptable thing in the world and that they have to be perfect angels all the time. They're 5 and 6. They're going to talk, they're going to get in trouble. Just like they do at home. There are kids in these classes that just flat out are brats and I know some that get bad marks all the time. Not my kids because they're good and well behaved most of the time. So if it's for something minor like talking or being a little too loud they are just reminded to be calm and not to talk when someone else is talking. That's pretty much all it takes.
How do you handle it when your child gets a less than perfect behavior mark?