My sons have two brothers that they are good friends with and hang out every day. The other family lives across the street and the boys come and go between houses every day/all day/night. I have never been strict about food. My kids can eat whatever they want when they want. I believe in natural consequences so it only took one time for the kids to eat too much candy, etc. when they were younger, get sick, to limit how much they consume. The neighbors, however, are health conscious and allow no sugar in their house. They do not, however, monitor them outside of their home.
I discovered my son and one of theirs with a couple of bags of Halloween candy. I didn't think much of it at the time. I then asked my son where it came from and he said that they (the boys) had stopped and bought it when they rode their bikes to the ice cream parlor last night. It then dawned on me that my son was "holding" it for his friend who isn't supposed to have it. My son confirmed this tonight at dinner. These boys are 11-12. How would you handle this? I'm interested in responses. After a few I will share what we did.
Most of you were pretty close and STVUstudent hit the nail on the head! My husband and I explained that it put us in an awkward position, and although we don't care what you eat, the other parents do and we have to respect this. We had our son let the kids know that they could not stash their booty at our house. We also talked about drugs, which of course then my kids thought I had lost my mind. They didn't really buy into "first stashing chocolate, then stashing pot", but our point got across. It's all about communication and respect.