Letting kids work it out vs. "protecting" them
I put quotes around the word protecting b/c sometimes we think we are protecting but what we are really doing is sheltering or in the extreme stunting growth in our children.
I was raised by very overprotective parents and without going into a ton of detail I feel it hurt me in the long run. Of course it feels good as a child to have all your fights fought for you but then you never learn coping skills and are unable to interact in a healthy way with others. So my question is at what point is it okay to step back and allow your child to get their feelings hurt to or have a disagreement or just allow them to be uncomfortable and when is it time to step in and swoop your baby bird up and make it all better. It is so hard to see your child suffer and know you can fix it immediately but also know some of that suffering is necessary. I struggle with this constantly b/c of my upbringing it is ingrained in me to fix all my dds hurts and I really have to make a conscious effort to allow her to be uncomfortable occasionally.